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badapple40

Senior Member
runnin4freedom said:
listen, all of this "jail time" and stuff for goin awol is BS. i was awol for 57 days, turned myself into Ft. Sill, and was out within a week just waiting on my discharge papers. this is not "war time" so they cant shoot you or anything. if anyone wants outta tha military, going awol for more than 30 days and less than 190 days is the easiest way out. you get an "other than honerable" discharge, and it can be upgraded to "honerable" after six months. dont let these fools fool you. awol isint really that bad, they really dont come looking for you. you can email me at [email protected] if u want for more info. later.
How much do you want to bet that your discharge does not ever get upgraded? I'll tell you what, I'll put up $100,000.

And you can also tell us how much that discharge comes to affect you in several years, when you go to pursue a job that does not involve the phrase "do you want fries with that?"
 


lvn4ever

Member
josh's wife, deelove and running4....

Just in case you aren't familiar with some of the frequent posters on this site, BADAPPLE is extremely knowledgable, helpful, fair-minded, mature, realistic...and, by the way, a military JAG officer with many many years of experience. From all the posts I have read by him, he never seems to have any ax to grind and never gets up on a soap box. He just tells the truth. When he sees the military commiting an injustice he is THE FIRST one to say, RUN AND GET A CIVILIAN LAWYER. And, when he sees someone making an unwise decision that is likely to result in some sort of military legal action he will give appropriate and accurate information.

You might give his comments just a wee bit more weight than those who have far less experience, education, wisdom and just good old common sense.

As for his "do you want fries with that?" comment, I can only speak about the one person I know who went AWOL, went back through Sill for his OTH and it has NOT worked that way for him!! Instead, due to his most recent fascinating career opportunities he has learned to say "Should I bus the dirty dishes off this table now?" and "Do I need to police up the dog crap on this lawn before I mow it...and do the gardens need edging?" True story.
 
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revere787

Guest
Joshua's Wife

Listen, your husband has not graduated from basic training/ait yet. He has not been in for 6 months. Tell him he can get an entry level discharge, because he has not been in that long. All this bull**** from these G.I joe wannabes is bull****. ON tv, they say, the war with iraq. That is the way they put it, but right now they are just re-building the country, WE ARE NOT AT WAR TIME, AND IF YOUR HUSBAND LEFT TO SEE YOU AND THE BABY , TELL HIM TO WAIT 30 DAYS UNTIL THEY DFR( DROP HIM FROM THE ROLLS), HE CAN GO TO FORT SILL, OKLAHOMA, TURN HIMSELF IN AND THEY WILL ADMINISTRATIVELY DISCHARGE HIM. THAT WILL BE AN OTHER THAN HONORABLE DISCHARGE. HE NEEDS TO WAIT UNTIL HE IS (DFR), THEY WILL PUT OUT A WARRANT FOR HIS ARREST AND THEN HE CAN TURN HIMSELF IN. THERE IS A DESERTER HOTLINE TO FIND OUT IF HE HAS BEEN DFR YET. THAT # IS......1-502-626-3711.......ALL THESE ****EN IDIOTS THAT ARE SCARING YOU WITH DESERTION/25YEARS IN JAIL. DONT LET THEM SCARE YOU. IF ANY OF THEM HAD ANY ****EN BRAINS, THEY WOULD KNOW THAT WHEN YOUR HUSBAND TURNED HIMSELF IN, HE ISNT DESERTING ANYMORE AND THEY COULD NEVER CHARGE HIM WITH IT. DESERTION IS IF YOU INTEND TO STAY AWAY FR0M MILITARY CONTROL. IF YOU TURN YOURSELF IN, YOU DID NOT INTEND TO STAY AWAY. THINK ABOUT IT. CALL THE G.I RIGHTS HOTLINE AND THEY WILL TELL YOU THE SAME THING. THEY ARE A NON-PROFIT GROUP WITH ADVICE AND KNOWLEDGE ON MILITARY LAW AND RIGHTS. THEY WILL HELP YOU, THERE # IS....1-800-394-9544. ANOTHER THING, THE ARMY WILL NOT, I STRESSSSS WILL NOT COME LOOKING FOR HIM, THEY DO NOT HAVE THE RESOURCES. EMAIL ME WITH ANY [email protected]
 

badapple40

Senior Member
revere787 said:
Listen, your husband has not graduated from basic training/ait yet. He has not been in for 6 months. Tell him he can get an entry level discharge, because he has not been in that long. All this bull**** from these G.I joe wannabes is bull****. ON tv, they say, the war with iraq. That is the way they put it, but right now they are just re-building the country, WE ARE NOT AT WAR TIME, AND IF YOUR HUSBAND LEFT TO SEE YOU AND THE BABY , TELL HIM TO WAIT 30 DAYS UNTIL THEY DFR( DROP HIM FROM THE ROLLS), HE CAN GO TO FORT SILL, OKLAHOMA, TURN HIMSELF IN AND THEY WILL ADMINISTRATIVELY DISCHARGE HIM. THAT WILL BE AN OTHER THAN HONORABLE DISCHARGE. HE NEEDS TO WAIT UNTIL HE IS (DFR), THEY WILL PUT OUT A WARRANT FOR HIS ARREST AND THEN HE CAN TURN HIMSELF IN. THERE IS A DESERTER HOTLINE TO FIND OUT IF HE HAS BEEN DFR YET. THAT # IS......1-502-626-3711.......ALL THESE ****EN IDIOTS THAT ARE SCARING YOU WITH DESERTION/25YEARS IN JAIL. DONT LET THEM SCARE YOU. IF ANY OF THEM HAD ANY ****EN BRAINS, THEY WOULD KNOW THAT WHEN YOUR HUSBAND TURNED HIMSELF IN, HE ISNT DESERTING ANYMORE AND THEY COULD NEVER CHARGE HIM WITH IT. DESERTION IS IF YOU INTEND TO STAY AWAY FR0M MILITARY CONTROL. IF YOU TURN YOURSELF IN, YOU DID NOT INTEND TO STAY AWAY. THINK ABOUT IT. CALL THE G.I RIGHTS HOTLINE AND THEY WILL TELL YOU THE SAME THING. THEY ARE A NON-PROFIT GROUP WITH ADVICE AND KNOWLEDGE ON MILITARY LAW AND RIGHTS. THEY WILL HELP YOU, THERE # IS....1-800-394-9544. ANOTHER THING, THE ARMY WILL NOT, I STRESSSSS WILL NOT COME LOOKING FOR HIM, THEY DO NOT HAVE THE RESOURCES. EMAIL ME WITH ANY [email protected]
Lets at least give the original poster ALL the facts.

1. revere is correct, in that this is not a wartime offense and he will not face those penalties.

2. revere is further correct that they will probably DFR (drop from rolls) your husband and put a warrant out for his arrest after 30 days. It is important to note, however, that this does not always occur, and sometimes units do not process the paperwork to DFR. As such, if your husband's unit does not, he will, upon his return, simply be returned to the unit to face disciplinary action.

3. He is NOT guaranteed an administrative discharge (other than honorable) at sill. That is probably what will happen, but there is no guarantee. If they do decide to court-martial him, he is facing, at the very worst, a dishonorable discharge, confinement of 1 year, and forfeiture of all pay and allowances (if not terminated by apprehension).

4. revere is further correct in that the army will not actively go looking for him. However, the army will probably put a warrant out for his arrest, and if he so much as gets a speeding ticket, then they will arrest him for the AWOL (then he is looking at a max of 18 months in prison).

5. An other than honorable discharge, which, as revere said, is probably what he will get, deprives him of all benefits and carries a stigma with him. It will likely bar him from federal employment and has a significant impact on his pursuit of any type of professional career. Employers are entitled to ask about it, and can deny employment on that basis.

6. You also need to be aware of the fact that there is a growing trend in the army, and a new program, to return AWOL soldiers to their units and impose NJP for AWOL offenses to prevent people from gaming the system and to help increase retention. There is a chance your husband, if he decides to go AWOL, could simply be returned to his unit (no matter how long he was AWOL), and forced to serve the remainder of his enlistment.

I cannot tell you, or your husband what I would do in this case. I would, however, advise that you think about all the options, try to exhaust military administrative channels, including writing appropriate congressional officials and lodging IG complaints, prior to resorting to committing the crime of AWOL.

--badapple, LTC, USAFR
 

frustrated vet

Junior Member
Finish the TIME

Your husband made a commitment to serve this country by enlisting in the Army. I made that same comittment and served in the USN.

I had a very difficult time with the physical portion of boot camp. I had to get up and run twice a day to pass the "run" within my time limits. The other physical portions of the PT were easy for me. I never gave up.

Do not I repeat do not go AWOL for what ever reason. It will haunt you for the rest of your life.

I think your husband should stay the course. It would be a very bad time to change everything right now with a baby due. He could get another job but then the new insurance company in his new line fo work could consider your condition preexisting and not cover it anyways.

Could it be your reason for wanting Josh out is because you are due to have a baby alone. Happens in the military all the time.

Suck it up lady. I was not only on ACTIVE DUTY but I was married to another service member. I faced many more challenges as my time in service lengthened. I did it proudly, loyally and honestly.

Be supportive of Josh. Give the can do attitude. Encourage him not discourage. Just finish what you both started.
 

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