Bio moms calling step moms - NJ / PA

[Bethy]

are you two also going to individual counseling along with the marriage counseling? It sounds like you need both to decide if this is really worth going on with or not.

Yes, we are, and had been prior to even meeting each other.

Currently he went back to his home (has been vacant since we were married...never listed it, which was yet a separate issue). There are alot of issues and while I cannot confirm what mom says about me, dad does/did admit that he yells at me in front of his daughter. I'm no perfect step-mom but I'm the opposite of assertive (mom is very assertive)...I retreat.

 

[dorothymantooth]

Bethy-I have no legal advice but...

I am a submissive person and a crier like yourself. I go out of my way to avoid conflict and arguments. My ex sounds ALOT like your husband. Once they know they can push you around, that is ALL they will do. They will also tell you that you don't deserve any better treatment and after a while, you'll start to believe it. I put up with 10 years of ugliness and hatred spewed at me on a daily basis because I was too meek to leave and I thought I wasn't a good person and I deserved the treatment.

One day something snapped inside me and I walked out. It was the best decision I've ever made. I thank God every day that I made sure we never had a child together. I deeply regret that I'll never get those years back, basically my entire 20's, but I now know I am a decent person and deserve to be treated with respect.

Now I have a husband who lifts me up instead of pushing me down and even though we have some issues, respect is not one.

RUN. RUN NOW. If the daughter you have is with him, don't allow her to grow up thinking that it's okay for a man to treat a woman this way. She will be scarred and will eventually find a man just like daddy who sh$ts on her too.

Just my humble opinion.