What does your mother have to do with this ? Why do you feel that your mother should be burdened with YOUR college education. If that's her choice, fine. But don't make YOUR problem HER problem. It's your education, not hers.
You're an adult. You're a big boy. It's your problem. Figure it out for yourself and come up with your own answers. Your Dad, your Mom, or the World for that matter, does NOT owe Jon an education.
If you want something in life, get it on your own. You'll feel better for having done so.
i dont remember saying that she should carry that burden... she decided she would help me with it of her own accord. i am not making my problem hers. i am an adult, or at least trying to be one, and i am trying to figure things out. i was just wondering if i could lighten a burden on myself by becoming financially seperated from my parents. while trying to find out if this is possible you are giving me lectures on life that i dont really need.