Can a grandmother adopt without father's consent?

[kulaika]

The grandmother is pretty transparent about the child. The child has also told me how he feels about his father - not that it's hard to tell when the father is screaming at us on a regular basis. I tried to have a relationship, but I've always felt completely unneeded, unwanted? Like I don't belong in their life - besides funding. The grandmother and child belong together.

 

[stealth2]

Wow. Just... wow.

 

[Eekamouse]

The child is definitely better off without you in his life since you only care about getting out of your financial obligation to help support your child. It isn't "extra money" that dad gets. It's child support to help support the child you and he made.

 

[Ohiogal]

Please never have other children, Kulaika. You are not presenting yourself as someone who cares about anyone other than themselves.

 

[Ohiogal]

The grandmother wants adoption of the child because she's worried that the father will do something like take the child away from her. I want to give up my rights because I don't want to pay child support, would like to move, would like to be able to find another line of work(that probably would pay less).

The father is receiving assistance, but I don't think the child is. Just the child support.

Why didn't you just have an abortion? That would have been best since you are a dead beat. As for moving, you could. NO one would care if you moved. You could continue being a deadbeat if you moved.

 

[Just Blue]

Why didn't you just have an abortion? That would have been best since you are a dead beat. As for moving, you could. NO one would care if you moved. You could continue being a deadbeat if you moved.

To clarify. OP could continue to be an parental involvement deadbeat...If she becomes/continues to be a financial obligation deadbeat she will end up in jail.

 

[not2cleverRed]

The grandmother and I have spoken to some people at the court and our law library, and no one's suggested incest being a barrier. I don't see how that is an issue, as the parental grandfather is there too. Do you think there is a way either situation(joint custody or all custody to grandmother) is possible?

Yes. I signed the "abandonment papers" after I gave birth to the child but the grandparents didn't file for some reason.

I'm curious... What does grandpa think of all this? Is he just chopped liver?

 

[torimac]

If the father is receiving SSDI, he may be able to receive some payment for the child. If the grandfather/grandmother adopts the child, then support is no longer awarded. Why are you not supporting the child? Whether or not you feel like you belong should not dictate your relationship with your child or fulfilling your legal obligation to support your child.