What is the name of your state?NJ. My ex and I share custody and visitation 50/50. We've had this agreement since the onset of our separation, which was 3 years ago (we are divorced now). Over the past 3 years he has exhibited some very reckless and nasty behavior. Every time something happened, he would apologize, say it wouldn't happen again, and nothing more would come of it. But something else would always happen. I saw a lawyer a few months ago who said, I probably wouldn't be able to change my agreement because I should have acted when he did the bad things. So I dismissed the idea, until the other day, when he spit in my face in front of our 10-year old son. I filed a complaint against him and we have a court date set for mid-October.
These are some of the things he has done over the past 3 years: we filed our 1040 jointly the year after we separated, he told me we owed $2400. I signed the 1040 and gave him a check for my half. I found out the following year that he had forged my name on a different 1040 and actually got a refund for $3000. He taped both of our house phones for about 1.5 years. That's how he knew I only had $1200 left in the bank, by listening to my private phone calls. He drove home drunk from Delaware with our 2 children in his truck. He keyed my boyfriend's car in front of our son and his friend. He let our 15 year old son drive by himself and drive the two of them home from a party (he didn't even have his permit). He left our 10 and 15 year old son's home alone, which normally isn't a problem, except he left at midnight and never told them he was leaving. Our youngest son who is terrified to sleep alone, woke up and found his Dad gone and went to his older brother's room to tell him. This happened twice. He also chased a guy down and hit him at a Phillies game in front of our 10-year old. That's a small sample.
I know that each time he did something I should have filed a complaint or something like that, but I really just didn't know that all I'd have to do was go to the local police dept.
Is there any chance a judge would look at these incidents and agree with me that he is not behaving in a good manner around the children and that a more limited visitation schedule would be better?
These are some of the things he has done over the past 3 years: we filed our 1040 jointly the year after we separated, he told me we owed $2400. I signed the 1040 and gave him a check for my half. I found out the following year that he had forged my name on a different 1040 and actually got a refund for $3000. He taped both of our house phones for about 1.5 years. That's how he knew I only had $1200 left in the bank, by listening to my private phone calls. He drove home drunk from Delaware with our 2 children in his truck. He keyed my boyfriend's car in front of our son and his friend. He let our 15 year old son drive by himself and drive the two of them home from a party (he didn't even have his permit). He left our 10 and 15 year old son's home alone, which normally isn't a problem, except he left at midnight and never told them he was leaving. Our youngest son who is terrified to sleep alone, woke up and found his Dad gone and went to his older brother's room to tell him. This happened twice. He also chased a guy down and hit him at a Phillies game in front of our 10-year old. That's a small sample.
I know that each time he did something I should have filed a complaint or something like that, but I really just didn't know that all I'd have to do was go to the local police dept.
Is there any chance a judge would look at these incidents and agree with me that he is not behaving in a good manner around the children and that a more limited visitation schedule would be better?