Can they really do this??

[notabadperson]

What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state? Wisconsin

This may sound wrong to some people but situations arose and things progressed, so please do not judge.
My male friend and I are considering divorcing our current spouse and marrying. His in-laws insured him that if he was to divorce, they would ruin him financially and destoy my career. I do not know how they would accomplish this, but I have worked many years and gone through much schooling to get where I am in my current job. My question is, how far can someone go with slander and harassing someone before I can stop it; and since I am not associated with these people, how can they financial and professionally ruin me?

 

[BelizeBreeze]

Why don't you ask them since we have no idea what you're talking about.

 

[notabadperson]

Ok. I posted here to get some real advice. Maybe I have gone to the wrong place. I have read some of your replies and they have a tendancy to be rude. I only wanted to know how far a person can harrass someone before it becomes illegal, and if they can legally ruin a career because they want revenge. My personal life always stays seperate from work. I have been in my career for over 15yrs, have been a valued employee and have never had any problems. I do not know what they think they can do. I was only looking for legitimate advice or information.

 

[enjay]

They may tell the truth to whomever they choose. If you are a doctor they can call the hospital and say you had an affair and left your spouse. Whether the hospital chooses to do anything is up to them. Truth is not slander.

 

[BelizeBreeze]

Well EXCUSE the hell out of me. Since you have no idea what they plan on doing, or any facts in your post whatsoever, here is your answer:

"They can do or go as far as they want until a Judge tells them they can't go further."

 

[cbg]

They can talk to anyone they choose to talk to. They can tell the truth and suffer no damages (i.e., you can't sue them). They can give their honest opinion and you can't sue them.

Only if they make FALSE statements AND as a result of those statements you suffer damages as the law sees damages (i.e. hurt feelings etc. are not damages) do you have any recourse.

 

[notabadperson]

Speaking frankly, we have never been physically intimate. Because of religious beliefs a physical relationship was not an option. So technically, there was no actual affair that took place, only very strong emotionally. I do not want to sue, I want to be able to tell these people with confidance that they can not call or go to my job and think they can harrass me or make false accusations.

 

[cbg]

Except that they CAN call or go to your job.

 

[jinkins]

You may be able to file a "no trespass" through your local police department or county attorney. You have to have your boss or manager sign off on it, but basically it says that the named people can not enter the property of the place you work, or they will be arrested.
Having been through a similiar situation, I would recommend that you get your side of the story in public, and get the no trespass, before they can begin to "slander" you. That way, you will have been open and honest, and by the time their horror story gets to them, they will already have the truth from you.
~B~

 

[Shay-Pari'e]

You may be able to file a "no trespass" through your local police department or county attorney. You have to have your boss or manager sign off on it, but basically it says that the named people can not enter the property of the place you work, or they will be arrested.
Having been through a similiar situation, I would recommend that you get your side of the story in public, and get the no trespass, before they can begin to "slander" you. That way, you will have been open and honest, and by the time their horror story gets to them, they will already have the truth from you.
~B~

That is NOT correct. Also, why would he want to get his story in "PUBLIC?"

 

[casa]

It's "not an affair"?? uhhh....reality check, you are emotionally involved with someone and plotting to leave your spouses to marry each other. What could the in-laws say that is worse than the truth of the situation?

Sometimes when you choose to play with fire, you have to suffer the burns

 

[jinkins]

That is NOT correct. Also, why would he want to get his story in "PUBLIC?"

Actually yes, if these people have threatened this person, they can file a no trespass or something similiar in their state.
By going "public" I meant that this person needs to let their boss know ahead of time the situation that is going on, doesn't need to give specific details, but a general overview, and that there is reason to believe these people may try and provide information with wrong intentions. That way the boss isn't told a dramatized version of an already bad situation.

 

[BelizeBreeze]

Actually yes, if these people have threatened this person, they can file a no trespass or something similiar in their state.
By going "public" I meant that this person needs to let their boss know ahead of time the situation that is going on, doesn't need to give specific details, but a general overview, and that there is reason to believe these people may try and provide information with wrong intentions. That way the boss isn't told a dramatized version of an already bad situation.

And you have no idea what you're talking about. Or did you even read the post. These people can stand outside her place of employment with a bullhorn and announce to her workplace, her boss and anyone else they care to that "This woman is having an affiar with this man while both are married to other people. Do you REALLY want to do business with a company that has these types of people working for them?" And there's not a damn thing our virtusous poster, her boss or God himself can do about it.

So next time understand the foundation of law that controls slander before opening your mouth with crap.

 

[howamidoing]

Speaking frankly, we have never been physically intimate. Because of religious beliefs a physical relationship was not an option. So technically, there was no actual affair that took place, only very strong emotionally. I do not want to sue, I want to be able to tell these people with confidance that they can not call or go to my job and think they can harrass me or make false accusations.

Your religious beliefs allow you to "plot" a divorce and furthermore allow you TO divorce? Thats an intersting religion! What accusations would they make that are false. either you arent telling us the truth OR your just toying with the idea and wanted to get peoples view about it,ie what they would think of you...i think if you dont want poeple talking about you having and affair,thats precisley what it is, then dont have one. Are you going to sue me for slander now?

 

[jinkins]

And you have no idea what you're talking about. Or did you even read the post. These people can stand outside her place of employment with a bullhorn and announce to her workplace, her boss and anyone else they care to that "This woman is having an affiar with this man while both are married to other people. Do you REALLY want to do business with a company that has these types of people working for them?" And there's not a damn thing our virtusous poster, her boss or God himself can do about it.

So next time understand the foundation of law that controls slander before opening your mouth with crap.

Before you start going off and telling people they are wrong, please read the posts. I never said she could go after anyone for slander. I simply was letting her know that there are legal steps she can take to stop harrassment. As for morally judging this woman, you do not know what either of their marriages may have been like.
Here's the statute that can be used:HARRASSMENT. (1) In this section: (a) "Course of conduct" means a pattern of conduct composed of a series of acts over a period of time, however short, evidencing a continuity of purpose. (b) "Credible threat" means a threat made with the intent and apparent ability to carry out the threat. (c) "Personally identifiable information" has the meaning given in s. 19.62(5). (d) "Record" has the meaning given in s. 19.32 (2).

(1m) Whoever, with intent to harass or intimidate another person, does any of the following is subject to a Class B forfeiture: (a) Strikes, shoves, kicks or otherwise subjects the person to physical contact or attempt or threatens to do the same. (b) Engages in a course of conduct or repeatedly commits acts which harass or intimidate the person and which serve no legitimate purpose.