ceara19 said:What was the reasoning behind the judge agreeing to the no alcohol stipulation in the first place?
Does he have a history of alcohol abuse?
And does the CO only state no alcohol 24 hours prior to picking up the children ONLY or does it go on to state no drinking during the times that he has the children also?
Yes, he has a history of alcohol abuse, including 2 domestic abuse charges where alcohol played a factor and a DUI. He went to anger management for the abuse charges and was in AA for approx. 7 months then "fell off the wagon." When he got the DUI, as a stipulation of his court supervision he was suppose to go to counseling and didnt therefor the court revoked his supervision.
The reasoning behind the court order is he would bring the kids home from visits and I could smell the alcohol on him, someone else always drove him, but when he brought them home and he himself drove that is when I had our original order changed from "Neither parent shall drink alcoholic beverages to excess or to the point of intoxication.... to "Father will not ingest any alcoholic beverages 24 hours before exercizing and during his visitation with the children" (both are exact wording) The kids were appointed a GAL and told her he drinks and drives and let my oldest son, 12 at the time, drive because he was to drunk to. That was in Jan. of 2004.
We were back in court again in Sept. of 2004 because he violated the order and took the kids to the liquor store with him and then back to his home, made the comment "I dont care what your mother thinks, Im thirsty" and drank in front of them. Again a GAL talked with the kids and the judge limited his visitation to EOW 9a-6p saturday and sunday...no overnights. in order to get his overnights back he was to "undergo an alcohol evaluation and abide by all counseling and/or treatment reccomended therein." He has still not completed any counseling to get his overnights back.
Then in Nov. of 2005 we met at our youngest sons basketball game for visitation exchange. He was late and in a bad mood and proceeded to argue with me. I could smell alcohol on him and called the police. That is when they had him do a breathalyzer and the police report was filed. He also threatened to hit me, and said it in front of our oldest son, that to is included in the police report.