When my son's mother had to clean the apartment, it was usually because CPS was coming and she had to make it look presentable. Somehow, she always put on a good act when it came time for legalities and once case was closed, house was unlivable again. Plus, now that my son is 12 years old, I see him up at 4am on school days, sleeping all evening. His eating habits are horrible over there. He comes over every other week, but sometimes longer and when it's longer, his fingernails and toenails are longer than hers! Somehow, I still think court would be pointless and I just go with the flow that she controls because she puts on such a good show for the right people and my long-ago history is worse than hers.