What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Illinois
December 2012, my child was present during a verbal argument between my boyfriend and I. I have two children, 12 year old with ex, 16 month old with new boyfriend. My 12 year old`s father stepped in in when some of our argument was caught on his voicemail when our daughter was calling him to come pick her up (it was his day, he was on his way, but she was calling/texting him to hurry, i learned of this later)enroll
Since then, my daughter stayed mostly at my grandmothers house and my daughter was saying she wasn't quite ready to come back to my place. I would go see her and spend time with her there. March 2013, i have my son. My daughter comes over periodically but not staying for long periods of time. Im still taking her feelings into consideration by not " making her" come home. Which people were saying i should have done, and i let a child dictate what she was and wasn't going to.do. By me having a joint parenting agreement, i had every right to bring my child back home, making sure not to.argue around her anymore, and her father would not have been able to do what he ultimately ended up doing. During this time, he was planning a wedding no one knew about, so he really would not have put up too much of a fuss.
During.this time though, her father took it upon himself to withdraw her from the school.she was at and enroll her in a school in another county where he moved to with his 2nd wife. (i am not the first wife, we were engaged, didnt happen, we both moved on, he got married to his 1st wife, then left her for this new 2nd wife)
I was unaware of this because with my newborn and me not being on top of things with my daughter, he was able to do what he did. I would talk to my daughter by phone, and to keep the peace with dad, still.acted as if she was still at her other school.
So, to fast forward a bit. After many failed attempts at mediating between each other, with maybe a family member acting as mediator, i filed a petition for mediation. Unfortunately, it turned into more of a long, drawn out thing, with GAL`s becoming part of the case because he brought up that my daughter is scared of my boyfriend and she does not, to hear him tell it, want to be anywhere around him.
I feel this is not the case, and the work of him working on her throughout this time because before, she had no problem being around him. In her words, coming back to my house after the incident was little awkward, but she wasnt scared or disliked him to the point that she does not want to lay eyes on him.
He has petitioned to stop support and also not pay any arrears. He has not paid since nov. 2014. He was awarded temporary residential custody (we have/had a joint parenting.agreement, everything.50/50, with my support being lowered from $400 to $100) he is saying he was her sole provider since Dec 2012, when technically, she was with my grandmother majority becausd her school was less than 5min away. He put her in the new school and moved to the suburbs in Jan2014. So, he was not her "sole provider" since dec. 2012.
I have been given weekends with my daughter. It's been stated everything is temporary. Could i still get some type of support, even though i have been subjected to weekends after being primary for 12 years? And do i still have any type of rights to.claim her on taxes? We were taking turns claiming her.
I know this is not the thread for asking questions about how to combat a manipulative, scheming ex, who, my whole family knkws this is right up his alley and this basically fell in his lap as he failed at getting residential custody before and now, using my boyfriend and our argument.as his Ace, has been able to work on our daughter so that she also says zhe doesn't want him anywherr around, but just a few months ago, she was willing to give him another chance. I guess i will make a thread about that in the proper forum.
December 2012, my child was present during a verbal argument between my boyfriend and I. I have two children, 12 year old with ex, 16 month old with new boyfriend. My 12 year old`s father stepped in in when some of our argument was caught on his voicemail when our daughter was calling him to come pick her up (it was his day, he was on his way, but she was calling/texting him to hurry, i learned of this later)enroll
Since then, my daughter stayed mostly at my grandmothers house and my daughter was saying she wasn't quite ready to come back to my place. I would go see her and spend time with her there. March 2013, i have my son. My daughter comes over periodically but not staying for long periods of time. Im still taking her feelings into consideration by not " making her" come home. Which people were saying i should have done, and i let a child dictate what she was and wasn't going to.do. By me having a joint parenting agreement, i had every right to bring my child back home, making sure not to.argue around her anymore, and her father would not have been able to do what he ultimately ended up doing. During this time, he was planning a wedding no one knew about, so he really would not have put up too much of a fuss.
During.this time though, her father took it upon himself to withdraw her from the school.she was at and enroll her in a school in another county where he moved to with his 2nd wife. (i am not the first wife, we were engaged, didnt happen, we both moved on, he got married to his 1st wife, then left her for this new 2nd wife)
I was unaware of this because with my newborn and me not being on top of things with my daughter, he was able to do what he did. I would talk to my daughter by phone, and to keep the peace with dad, still.acted as if she was still at her other school.
So, to fast forward a bit. After many failed attempts at mediating between each other, with maybe a family member acting as mediator, i filed a petition for mediation. Unfortunately, it turned into more of a long, drawn out thing, with GAL`s becoming part of the case because he brought up that my daughter is scared of my boyfriend and she does not, to hear him tell it, want to be anywhere around him.
I feel this is not the case, and the work of him working on her throughout this time because before, she had no problem being around him. In her words, coming back to my house after the incident was little awkward, but she wasnt scared or disliked him to the point that she does not want to lay eyes on him.
He has petitioned to stop support and also not pay any arrears. He has not paid since nov. 2014. He was awarded temporary residential custody (we have/had a joint parenting.agreement, everything.50/50, with my support being lowered from $400 to $100) he is saying he was her sole provider since Dec 2012, when technically, she was with my grandmother majority becausd her school was less than 5min away. He put her in the new school and moved to the suburbs in Jan2014. So, he was not her "sole provider" since dec. 2012.
I have been given weekends with my daughter. It's been stated everything is temporary. Could i still get some type of support, even though i have been subjected to weekends after being primary for 12 years? And do i still have any type of rights to.claim her on taxes? We were taking turns claiming her.
I know this is not the thread for asking questions about how to combat a manipulative, scheming ex, who, my whole family knkws this is right up his alley and this basically fell in his lap as he failed at getting residential custody before and now, using my boyfriend and our argument.as his Ace, has been able to work on our daughter so that she also says zhe doesn't want him anywherr around, but just a few months ago, she was willing to give him another chance. I guess i will make a thread about that in the proper forum.