Changing an unwed couples childs surname to her mothers surname.

[Proserpina]

Did we ever discover exactly how and when Daddy allegedly molested the little girl?

 

[Concerned0001]

No. I am too busy dealing with children who are screwed up by parents and grandparents like you.

WOW!
I came for advice on what options my daughter has and got verbally assaulted by you. I did not come here to get beat up. I came for advice as I am concerned for my Granddaughter. I guess this site is not about help[ing people in need.

I am withdrawing membership and will not be back. You have ruined it for me as I am sure you have done so to others.

 

[Proserpina]

WOW!
I came for advice on what options my daughter has and got verbally assaulted by you. I did not come here to get beat up. I came for advice as I am concerned for my Granddaughter. I guess this site is not about help[ing people in need.

I am withdrawing membership and will not be back. You have ruined it for me as I am sure you have done so to others.

Which doesn't make anything OG said any less true. But since you are here, could you please explain about the molestation issue?

 

[ProSeDadinMD]

...could you please explain about the molestation issue?

I'm thinking that's gonna be no, and another case of "I'd rather defend myself(even though I am not even a party to the case) than actually get any help(for the kids involved) from the people asking the questions I don't like the tone of".

 

[dannyt]

you dont want him to be dad

WOW!
I came for advice on what options my daughter has and got verbally assaulted by you. I did not come here to get beat up. I came for advice as I am concerned for my Granddaughter. I guess this site is not about help[ing people in need.

I am withdrawing membership and will not be back. You have ruined it for me as I am sure you have done so to others.

no, you and your daughter want to find a way to cut dad out of the picture.

 

[mdgtfrmhll]

I'm thinking that's gonna be no, and another case of "I'd rather defend myself(even though I am not even a party to the case) than actually get any help(for the kids involved) from the people asking the questions I don't like the tone of".

The only thing she wanted to hear was that her and her daughter were right and hey should be allowed to erase dad from child's life. Since the responses were anything but her and her daughter were the good people and dad was evil, she got upset and left.

My advice is this: YOU should go to court with your daughter and tell the judge that dad is the bad guy. YOU should tell the judge how evil dad looks at child porn all day long, even though YOU have no proof, so your daughter decided not to let dad see his child. Make sure YOU mention the agency that looked through his computer and found no porn. Make sure YOU also throw in there that the evil man molested his daughter, again letting him know YOU have no evidence of this taking place. Then YOU should explain to the judge that what YOU and your daughter want is for that evil man to be out of your daughter's life forever.

Please come back and tell us all what happens from there.

DISCLAIMER: I would not follow any of the advice in italics above. It is only for those who do not want to have a happy outcome in court.

 

[Ohiogal]

WOW!
I came for advice on what options my daughter has and got verbally assaulted by you. I did not come here to get beat up. I came for advice as I am concerned for my Granddaughter. I guess this site is not about help[ing people in need.

I am withdrawing membership and will not be back. You have ruined it for me as I am sure you have done so to others.

How did i become the enemy? On the plus side I am glad to see as of yet you have not posted anything else which means at least you are not a liar in that regards.

I answered truthfully. This site is about the law. Just because the law does not back you up completely and to the outcome you desire does NOT mean you were NOT helped. You were helped.

 

[Zigner]

WOW!
I came for advice on what options my daughter has and got verbally assaulted by you.

Just because I feel like being a stickler...

You can't be "verbally" anything on an internet forum

 

[ecmst12]

FYI, OP, the members of this forum are not "male biased". They are biased in favor of parents putting aside their personal differences and putting the child's needs first. They are in favor of any parent that hasn't been PROVEN unfit being able to have a relationship with his or her child, and being supported and encouraged to. They are AGAINST any party trying to alienate a parent - whether it's the other parent, a step parent, a grandparent, a friend of the family, whatever.

If this dad is truly unfit and a danger to the child, there were ways to get that LEGALLY established so as to protect the child from him. The fact that mom didn't do it says something about how dangerous she thinks he is. Which means he probably was looking at ordinary legal porn of 18 year olds, and he never actually touched the child, or else mom would have gone RIGHT to the cops, and he would be in prison, and she would have no problems getting his rights terminated.

Unemployed alcoholics are people too. Every child should know who their parents are, even if they don't like them very much. Even if all he could get is supervised visitation, that should not be interfered with by mom or anyone else.

The general belief on this forum is that the time you can choose who the other parent of your children will be is before you have sex with them. The minute the child is conceived and mom decides to carry it to term, it is too late to go trying to pick and choose a different parent - the deed is done. Outside of rape, every parent decided that the other parent was good enough to get naked with, so they'd better be good enough to spend the next 18 years having a civil relationship with for the sake of the child.

Because in the end, the CHILD is the most important thing in ANY of your lives.

 

[Nocgirl]

Dad is still Dad. He does have rights and mom cannot change the last name without his permission. i am not sure what that would do anyways, he is still the father. she chose him to father her child, its too late to say he is not father material.

 

[bridgemom]

If she wants to change her daughter's name and doesn't have dad's permission, she can petition the court for a name change.

If dad contests he will need to appear in court and the judge will hear both arguments. The judge will change the name if it's determined to be in the childs best interest.