child endangerment and custody

[outhouse]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Ca

ex wife tried to steal my child, freedom, house, money and possesions. not light charges either.

she accused me of spousal rape and watching porn in front of our 2 year old and got a TRO and filed the next morning out of anger for a PRO.

it all backfired on her, it all started with me calling 911 for her hitting me and while the police were here and i would not file charges [thinking about the baby] and i didnt want a TRO so after the police being there for 2 hours in the middle of he night and neither party would leave the house the police baited her with the spousal rape charges and she bit, cops got the her TRO and i had to leave.

cops have been out at the house 3 other times for DV no one has ever been arrested or charged because she starts the violence i defend myself and she runs for the cops trying to use that against me and fails cause i never left a mark or scratch on her.

using the TRO i didnt see my daughter for 3 weeks till court when i got supervised visitation one week later i got into emergency mediation. what a relief that was. the wife was there first and blew it in front of the mediator letting the baby play with a choking hazard and letting the baby cry without doing anything and not wiping snot off her face for 20 minutes. no real biggie in the courts eyes but it sure pissed off the mediator. when i saw her/mediator she baited me with choking hazards for the baby and i passed her little test and i was all about the best for the baby during the whole mediation experience. she reversed everything, she reccomended to the court ex gets supervised visitation 3 days a week 2 hours a day and that she has to go to a phyc evaluation and a 1 year parenting class .

in court the judge adopted the mediators reccomendation, after the wife waisted 2000 bucks on a lawyer and he did nothing for the money i meen nothing.

1 week before court [the good part for me] a letter comes saying DA is charging the wife with 3 counts of child endangerment! 1 from june when she left the baby in the car alone with the engine running and went in the store and got ratted off and police and CPS showed up. the other 2 counts from the night she started the fight and threw a PC monitor on the ground and started punching me with the baby present. since i called 911 while she was still hitting they say i didnt do anything wrong.

so instead of me going to jail for 10 years for rape [never ever happened all lies to gain custody] she is in hot water. she,s not taking the baby away for 4 years either. she,s not getting the house because it was a rental before marriage [im home now ]. shes not getting any money for CS because i have custody. she did how ever get a moveing van and clean the house out of all possesions gained during marriage and a few that were mine before. I use craigs list and replaced everything, did get a loan and buy a new TV and PC though. [better then before ]

still going through court and they have us enrolled in the step program for high profile divorces.

im confused my lawyer says that wife may be able to get %50 legal and %50 custody if she plays her cards rite in about 1- 2 years

i would think that with 3 counts child endangerment [if she is convicted] would be a slam dunk for me to be the CP.

i cannot for the life of me figure out what the punishment will be??? but im guessing a $1000 fine, 1 year child abuser classes, 4 years proabation and possibly a 4 year RO for the baby. plus/possible jail time. now that guess is for 1 count not 3!!!!

any ideas or thoughts are welcome. kinda of like a phoenix i came from the ashes to fly. all because of a vindictive wife. [her dad was diagnosed paranoid scitz] and shes on meds for her own undiagnosed mental condition]

ive been here since day one 3 months ago learning and reading so i have to thank this community. divorce net is to slow, divorce source is a fighting ground for pro he and she.

this forum is just right

 

[Humusluvr]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Ca

ex wife tried to steal my child, freedom, house, money and possesions. not light charges either.

she accused me of spousal rape and watching porn in front of our 2 year old and got a TRO and filed the next morning out of anger for a PRO.

it all backfired on her, it all started with me calling 911 for her hitting me and while the police were here and i would not file charges [thinking about the baby] and i didnt want a TRO so after the police being there for 2 hours in the middle of he night and neither party would leave the house the police baited her with the spousal rape charges and she bit, cops got the her TRO and i had to leave.

cops have been out at the house 3 other times for DV no one has ever been arrested or charged because she starts the violence i defend myself and she runs for the cops trying to use that against me and fails cause i never left a mark or scratch on her.

using the TRO i didnt see my daughter for 3 weeks till court when i got supervised visitation one week later i got into emergency mediation. what a relief that was. the wife was there first and blew it in front of the mediator letting the baby play with a choking hazard and letting the baby cry without doing anything and not wiping snot off her face for 20 minutes. no real biggie in the courts eyes but it sure pissed off the mediator. when i saw her/mediator she baited me with choking hazards for the baby and i passed her little test and i was all about the best for the baby during the whole mediation experience. she reversed everything, she reccomended to the court ex gets supervised visitation 3 days a week 2 hours a day and that she has to go to a phyc evaluation and a 1 year parenting class .

in court the judge adopted the mediators reccomendation, after the wife waisted 2000 bucks on a lawyer and he did nothing for the money i meen nothing.

1 week before court [the good part for me] a letter comes saying DA is charging the wife with 3 counts of child endangerment! 1 from june when she left the baby in the car alone with the engine running and went in the store and got ratted off and police and CPS showed up. the other 2 counts from the night she started the fight and threw a PC monitor on the ground and started punching me with the baby present. since i called 911 while she was still hitting they say i didnt do anything wrong.

so instead of me going to jail for 10 years for rape [never ever happened all lies to gain custody] she is in hot water. she,s not taking the baby away for 4 years either. she,s not getting the house because it was a rental before marriage [im home now ]. shes not getting any money for CS because i have custody. she did how ever get a moveing van and clean the house out of all possesions gained during marriage and a few that were mine before. I use craigs list and replaced everything, did get a loan and buy a new TV and PC though. [better then before ]

still going through court and they have us enrolled in the step program for high profile divorces.

im confused my lawyer says that wife may be able to get %50 legal and %50 custody if she plays her cards rite in about 1- 2 years

i would think that with 3 counts child endangerment [if she is convicted] would be a slam dunk for me to be the CP.

i cannot for the life of me figure out what the punishment will be??? but im guessing a $1000 fine, 1 year child abuser classes, 4 years proabation and possibly a 4 year RO for the baby. plus/possible jail time. now that guess is for 1 count not 3!!!!

any ideas or thoughts are welcome. kinda of like a phoenix i came from the ashes to fly. all because of a vindictive menataly ill wife. [her dad was diagnosed paranoid scitz] and shes on meds for her own undiagnosed mental condition]

ive been here since day one 3 months ago learning and reading so i have to thank this community. divorce net is to slow, divorce source is a fighting ground for pro he and she.

this forum is just right

If you had been reading three days, then you KNOW we are gonna jump all over the crap you posted, much like flies on honey.

But I will start with, how do you KNOW what the punishment will be? Or even speculate?

And you can't diagnose ANYTHING, because you aren't a doctor. At least, I hope.

 

[not2cleverRed]

If you had been reading three days, then you KNOW we are gonna jump all over the crap you posted, much like flies on honey.

Worse: OP has been reading for 3 months, not days.

Still can't find the question in there. Not sure how much of the story is true - if it is, then a lot of us are wondering how our ex/STBX got off so easy.

Oh, and just because OP didn't leave a mark "defending" himself, doesn't mean that he didn't hit back, was what he implied. (Doesn't every guy claim that she started it? Mine admitted to putting me in a chokehold on more than one occasion when I was holding our baby in my arms - and allegedly that I was the violent one who started it. So pardon my skepticism.)

 

[outhouse]

your funny

i said ive been here since day 1, 3 months ago. been reading here and 3 other forums for 3 months edjumacatin myself.

i know the punishment cause i looked up the penal code, but this does not indicate what the judge will do with 3 counts. judge also has allot of lee way on what he will do. like i said its a guess and i want more info.

dont start to argue with me your gun isnt loaded just kiddin im not stresssed %140 like before or i would have jumped on a easy arguement

i plainly stated she is undiagnosed, the fact that she is on cymbalta has been on zanex had been seeing a pill pusher for a year after being suicidal, and the fact the mediator reccomended a phyc evaluation would give me enough lee way to say she has a mental condition.

 

[Silverplum]

your funny

A few of us are funny. What's important is that some of us are familiar with family law.

i said ive been here since day 1, 3 months ago. been reading here and 3 other forums for 3 months edjumacatin myself.

We already find that hard to believe, but okay.

dont start to argue with me your gun isnt loaded just kiddin im not stresssed %140 like before or i would have jumped on a easy arguement

Go ahead. Argue with the senior advisors. See how that works for you. Use it as practice for when you plan to argue with the judge or mediator or magistrate.

i plainly stated she is undiagnosed, the fact that she is on cymbalta has been on zanex had been seeing a pill pusher for a year after being suicidal, and the fact the mediator reccomended a phyc evaluation would give me enough lee way to say she has a mental condition.

No, it would not give you "enough lee way" to say she has a mental condition.

 

[outhouse]

for U

its all true

she is not off easy, we have been to court twice, once her lawyer got a extension then when she ran out of money he left her high and dry. on the second visit her child was taken from her and she got very little supervised visitation when the mediators reccomendations were adopted.

she is still facing the child endangerment charges, in the family law court the judge cannot use that against her yet. since she is not guilty. but he did say that there was no way she would get custody rite now with those charges along with the mediators report.

first i dont hit women i have a body like a prize fighter and would hurt her if i even tried a little. i have never been violent in my life and dont care what you think. my daughter and Im the victim here.

CPS has been out to the house before and the thing that helps me is that she/CPS warned me that women like my ex usualy make these sexual charges to gain custody. then imagine that 2-3 months later she did.

So CPS knew what she was like and they told the mediator that she was not credible as did the first court ordered mediator.

 

[futuredust]

cause i never left a mark or scratch on her.

Interesting...

 

[Humusluvr]

first i dont hit women i have a body like a prize fighter and would hurt her if i even tried a little. i have never been violent in my life and dont care what you think. my daughter and Im the victim here..

SPLURT!!!

***coffee runs down computer screen***

Funny, outhouse, me too!!!

 

[outhouse]

humus decided to start the arguement without even reading my post proper.

the term he used [crap] against my post is real senior like?

look unless your a lawyer and know my county,s judges and Ca law then your more of a danger to people here then i am not giving advise

 

[outhouse]

its all good bud

 

[Humusluvr]

humus decided to start the arguement without even reading my post proper.

the term he used [crap] against my post is real senior like?

look unless your a lawyer and know my county,s judges and Ca law then your more of a danger to people here then i am not giving advise

SPLURT!!!

***There it goes again***

 

[Humusluvr]

its all good bud

uh, it's really not, dude.

 

[outhouse]

futuredust

cops have been out 4 times and CPS twice. If i had left so much as a scratch i would have been in jail. i have called 911 twice and she has ran out the driveway to call the cops.

all 4 times the cops responded and no one was arrested because in there words it was mutual with no marks or someone would go to jail.

 

[outhouse]

thats fine humus your advise is weak on this board anyway

 

[Humusluvr]

thats fine humus your advise is weak on this board anyway

But, my advice (and spelling and grammar) are out of sight!!!