Child on Child Sexual Activity

[Proserpina]

Thank you Pro.

(I just hope that your post isn't reported. It seems to be a sensitive issue, y'know?)

 

[Just Blue]

(I just hope that your post isn't reported. It seems to be a sensitive issue, y'know?)

Oh!! I'm sure it will be! There are always people that have issues with sexual development. Especially if it "seems" "gay". Whatever. If OP has postings going to her e-mail she can read my post there, even if it is removed here. OP can consider my post or not. That is up to her.

 

[Ohiogal]

Two things here.

Teens experiment. That's factual, and there's really no escaping that fact.

Then there is the legality. Is it illegal for two teens of the stated age to masturbate in front of each other? Questionable. Is it illegal for those two teens to have intercourse? Yes, clearly. And yes, one or both may have to register as a sex offender.

There are too many variables to say much more than that.

Are you sure about that? They are both the same age. http://www.age-of-consent.info/states/Illinois
Both would actually be perpetrators and both would be victims at that age. There is argument here that if there was no force involved that it would be nothing more than experimentation. It also invokes constitutional issues.

 

[JJ1515]

Alright. Goolgle the term "circle jerk". It is a group of barely pubescent boys showing off their ability to produce sperm when they come. That is all it is. they are not perverted. They are not going to be on a SOR.
THEY ARE NOT "GAY".
I will say that if I were the mother to one of these children I would have a bit of difficultly to deal...BUT, in all honesty, there is nothing inherently "wrong" with it. Just a couple/bunch of very young teens showing off the fact that they can produce sperm when comming.

Are you sure your child wasn't involved and that is why you are posting this thread?

Yes, I am sure this isn't my biological child, but this boy is practically my adopted son. He doesn't have a great home life so we invite him over a lot. It just really bothers me that this rumor has gotten so far out of control and I would hate for the other family to hurt his future.

 

[Just Blue]

Yes, I am sure this isn't my biological child, but this boy is practically my adopted son. He doesn't have a great home life so we invite him over a lot. It just really bothers me that this rumor has gotten so far out of control and I would hate for the other family to hurt his future.

Are you sure your child wasn't involved and that is why you are posting this thread?

Hummmm. So much to ponder in this one post.

 

[stealth2]

Yes, I am sure this isn't my biological child, but this boy is practically my adopted son. He doesn't have a great home life so we invite him over a lot. It just really bothers me that this rumor has gotten so far out of control and I would hate for the other family to hurt his future.

How do you know it's a rumor?

 

[ajkroy]

I am honestly kind of shocked that there is SO much "consoling" going out to the OP that the kid isn't gay. Like it's a bad thing.

So what if he is? Particularly if he doesn't have a good home life, if he is, he's going to need someone safe and loving to come out to. OP, be ready. Lots of resources on the net to help you find what to say, if you don't already know. Sometimes just "I love you" is enough.

 

[Just Blue]

I am honestly kind of shocked that there is SO much "consoling" going out to the OP that the kid isn't gay. Like it's a bad thing.

So what if he is? Particularly if he doesn't have a good home life, if he is, he's going to need someone safe and loving to come out to. OP, be ready. Lots of resources on the net to help you find what to say, if you don't already know. Sometimes just "I love you" is enough.

Huh?????????????

 

[ajkroy]

Huh?????????????

You commented twice to indicate that the child in question isn't gay and swalsh did once. But Blue, you put "quotations" around the word gay both times you used it (reminded me of lilmansmom and her "wife" comments). Why?

Gay is one of many correct terms to indicate homosexuality. It's really okay to use it...better yet if all of us can embrace it. "Quotations" and protestations that the child isn't (when you really couldn't possibly know that) are unenlightened at best and can be misconstrued as offensive. Since I've witnessed you being open, generous, and gentle on many other occasions, I'm choosing to believe you honestly meant no offense.

If you're wondering, I have several teens come out to me every single year. Each instance is different, but they all don't have to be difficult. It is the adults in their lives that make it hell for them...and drive these kids to consider doing horrific things to themselves.

If this kid is gay, and the OP initially indicated that the rumors were also about sex, then...so what???

 

[HomeGuru]

This thread is taking on a life of its own.

 

[stealth2]

You commented twice to indicate that the child in question isn't gay and swalsh did once. But Blue, you put "quotations" around the word gay both times you used it (reminded me of lilmansmom and her "wife" comments). Why?

Gay is one of many correct terms to indicate homosexuality. It's really okay to use it...better yet if all of us can embrace it. "Quotations" and protestations that the child isn't (when you really couldn't possibly know that) are unenlightened at best and can be misconstrued as offensive. Since I've witnessed you being open, generous, and gentle on many other occasions, I'm choosing to believe you honestly meant no offense.

If you're wondering, I have several teens come out to me every single year. Each instance is different, but they all don't have to be difficult. It is the adults in their lives that make it hell for them...and drive these kids to consider doing horrific things to themselves.

If this kid is gay, and the OP initially indicated that the rumors were also about sex, then...so what???

Thank you, ajkroy. Those of us who know or have kids who are LGBT, understand how hurtful such comments can be. These kids are just as normal as "straight" kids. The quotes, the protestations that such behaviors don't mean the kid is gay, etc... push the kids who ARE LGBT further into the closet. Surely, some are not, but some are. And if they are, that's okay, too...

 

[Just Blue]

You commented twice to indicate that the child in question isn't gay and swalsh did once. But Blue, you put "quotations" around the word gay both times you used it (reminded me of lilmansmom and her "wife" comments). Why?

Gay is one of many correct terms to indicate homosexuality. It's really okay to use it...better yet if all of us can embrace it. "Quotations" and protestations that the child isn't (when you really couldn't possibly know that) are unenlightened at best and can be misconstrued as offensive. Since I've witnessed you being open, generous, and gentle on many other occasions, I'm choosing to believe you honestly meant no offense.

If you're wondering, I have several teens come out to me every single year. Each instance is different, but they all don't have to be difficult. It is the adults in their lives that make it hell for them...and drive these kids to consider doing horrific things to themselves.

If this kid is gay, and the OP initially indicated that the rumors were also about sex, then...so what???

I agree and in no way meant to offend. My personal feelings have been posted many times regarding this topic. I utilized " " due to normal heterosexual behavior being misconstrued as normal homosexual behavior. But it truly doesn't make a difference in this thread. Gay or Straight op's "adopted son" is seemingly perfectly "normal" (if there is such a standard. lol)

Again I am sorry if I offended anyone.

 

[HomeGuru]

I am not offended.