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My ex and I have been divorced for years and only get along because I chose not to fight (he loves the fight). The child support arrangement for four kids is hinged on 50/50 time split, and the order only dictates that I receive $100 per month because of this, but he is supposed to pay 50% of clothing, afterschool activities, medical and dental insurance and overages etc.
However, he has not had the kids since 2001, aside from a few dinners here and there - probably 2x a month a best. No vacations, holidays or weekend visits. I allow him to arrange these dinners whenever he wants and there is no particular schedule; whenever his time permits. Kids are happier living without the disruption of moving back and forth, and so am I. As long as I don't want money or a commitment on time, we get along great.
I have not brought this to court for two reasons: he is a fighter and everything ends us costing me more than I can afford, as well as immersing me in a battle that disrupts my family's calm, and he is self employed so can hide his income and assets. We both work full time and make about $35K-$40K per year. His payments are sporatic because he always claims to be going through a rough spot. Overall, he has paid about $11K per year in inconsistent payments. I have tons of expenses that should be covered but he feels that this is his limit and unless I want to take him to court, he will not pay more. Can our child support arrangement be changed to retroactive? According to my expenses, I show him needing to pay closer to $18-20K per year, especially since he does not exercise his visitation as the agreement outlines, and therefore has no expenses of his own to offset mine. My kids are all teenagers, and taking care of them is a full time and expensive job! What are my options?
My ex and I have been divorced for years and only get along because I chose not to fight (he loves the fight). The child support arrangement for four kids is hinged on 50/50 time split, and the order only dictates that I receive $100 per month because of this, but he is supposed to pay 50% of clothing, afterschool activities, medical and dental insurance and overages etc.
However, he has not had the kids since 2001, aside from a few dinners here and there - probably 2x a month a best. No vacations, holidays or weekend visits. I allow him to arrange these dinners whenever he wants and there is no particular schedule; whenever his time permits. Kids are happier living without the disruption of moving back and forth, and so am I. As long as I don't want money or a commitment on time, we get along great.
I have not brought this to court for two reasons: he is a fighter and everything ends us costing me more than I can afford, as well as immersing me in a battle that disrupts my family's calm, and he is self employed so can hide his income and assets. We both work full time and make about $35K-$40K per year. His payments are sporatic because he always claims to be going through a rough spot. Overall, he has paid about $11K per year in inconsistent payments. I have tons of expenses that should be covered but he feels that this is his limit and unless I want to take him to court, he will not pay more. Can our child support arrangement be changed to retroactive? According to my expenses, I show him needing to pay closer to $18-20K per year, especially since he does not exercise his visitation as the agreement outlines, and therefore has no expenses of his own to offset mine. My kids are all teenagers, and taking care of them is a full time and expensive job! What are my options?