Hi! I am an evil step mom (and Mommy-lol) who's husbands order is in Ma. and I write the check every month too...only because I am in charge of the check book in our house, so I pay all the bills.
As far as dealing with step mom goes, you already know what it is like and what you want by being one yourself already. You know you don't have to deal with her directly at all, if she gets to "personal". I know I will never go out for coffee with my husbands ex, and my husband doesn't expect to either. but I would at least like to be able to have the occasional civil conversation with her to discuss plans with the kids, or thier latest interests and clothing styles, or just be able to sit by her during a soccer game. She is not very friendly, but I continue to treat her the way I WANT to be treated.
Well it looks like you have done all the math at the calculator website and 'know" what you could get.
I think definately if you can come to an agreement on what should be paid you should do that. I know my husband and his ex in the past, have deviated from the guidelines, both more and less, and because they were BOTH agreeable, the judge signed off on the support agreement. so in your case I don't think you should have a rough time getting what you want legal once yo ucome to an agreement. I think you should have all agreements be legal before the court. Once you are out of court, you can deviate a bit as it suits either of you, but it is nice to know if there is a time when you don't get along, you have legal protection.
you don't mention concerns with custody, visitations or insurance issues. But it might be nice to spell those out too, not that you ever have to go by them, but they are nice to fall back on if like I said, the future gets not so bright.
I am not sure of Ma. stand on primary school education. I do know my husbands decree says both parents are to help out in any way within thier means with all schooling decisions up to college, meaning if she did want private elementary, we wouldn't be obligated by law to help unless we were able. in your case though it might be possible as she already goes to private? something to consider in your agreement for sure....
As far as dealing with step mom goes, you already know what it is like and what you want by being one yourself already. You know you don't have to deal with her directly at all, if she gets to "personal". I know I will never go out for coffee with my husbands ex, and my husband doesn't expect to either. but I would at least like to be able to have the occasional civil conversation with her to discuss plans with the kids, or thier latest interests and clothing styles, or just be able to sit by her during a soccer game. She is not very friendly, but I continue to treat her the way I WANT to be treated.
Well it looks like you have done all the math at the calculator website and 'know" what you could get.
I think definately if you can come to an agreement on what should be paid you should do that. I know my husband and his ex in the past, have deviated from the guidelines, both more and less, and because they were BOTH agreeable, the judge signed off on the support agreement. so in your case I don't think you should have a rough time getting what you want legal once yo ucome to an agreement. I think you should have all agreements be legal before the court. Once you are out of court, you can deviate a bit as it suits either of you, but it is nice to know if there is a time when you don't get along, you have legal protection.
you don't mention concerns with custody, visitations or insurance issues. But it might be nice to spell those out too, not that you ever have to go by them, but they are nice to fall back on if like I said, the future gets not so bright.
I am not sure of Ma. stand on primary school education. I do know my husbands decree says both parents are to help out in any way within thier means with all schooling decisions up to college, meaning if she did want private elementary, we wouldn't be obligated by law to help unless we were able. in your case though it might be possible as she already goes to private? something to consider in your agreement for sure....
