What is the name of your state? TX
Here's my dilemma: My son, who lives with his mother in TX., just turned 18 years old. His mother keeps calling, threatening to take me back to court to have the child support terms modified so that she gets more money. Please bear with me as I give you some background information on this problem.
My son, who is now 18, has not completed High School. In fact, he has not even managed to pass the 10th grade for a couple of years. I don't know if he has any intention to continue school or not, as we have severed ties due to a very unfortunate set of events. My ex-wife called me approximately a year and a half ago, claiming she was sick of our son, she could not and would not have anything further to do with him and stated, "you deal with him, he'll be on a plane to you in a couple of days - you deal with him, I'm done!" Evidently, my son had been having some severe behavioral problems, managing to get suspended numerous times from school.
A few days after that phone call, I had no recourse but to take my son in. Needless to say, it was difficult, but I felt we could help him. Having stayed with us no more than a few months, we found out he had abused our youngest daughter who had just turned 5 years of age. Needless to say, this was the most painful and harrowing thing we've had to go through. We reported it, and it has gone through the naturally long process of court proceedings, ultimately ending in my son pleading guilty to the charges. After that (and having served a few months in juvenile detention), he was released to the custody of his mother with a temporary electronic home monitoring device (until he was under TX probation), ordered to attend therapy and cannot be with children unless supervised. He was just sent back to TX in early December, 2007.
As you can appreciate, it has been tremendously painful and harrowing. The mother was barely in the picture as this whole thing unfolded. Now, however, she has resurfaced with renewed threats to take me to court and to have the child support increased. I don't know how this woman has the gall to ask for more many in view of the above incident, and the fact that our son has already turned 18 years of age with no future prospects of finishing school. She will not divulge which school he is supposedly attending (they've moved several times). Based on the last known address, I called the school and was told they could not give me any further information/proof of enrollment/attendance even though I'm the father. At this rate, I feel he's never going to finish school and I'll spend the rest of my natural life paying.
If you could possibly give me any guidance/help/suggestions, I'd be very grateful. At this point, I'm desperate! Thanks for your time and patience wading through this long e-mail!
Thanks so much,
TX man in East Coast
I'm sorry! I had written out this whole thing, and when I submitted it, somehow it disappeared.
Here's my dilemma: My son, who lives with his mother in TX., just turned 18 years old. His mother keeps calling, threatening to take me back to court to have the child support terms modified so that she gets more money. Please bear with me as I give you some background information on this problem.
My son, who is now 18, has not completed High School. In fact, he has not even managed to pass the 10th grade for a couple of years. I don't know if he has any intention to continue school or not, as we have severed ties due to a very unfortunate set of events. My ex-wife called me approximately a year and a half ago, claiming she was sick of our son, she could not and would not have anything further to do with him and stated, "you deal with him, he'll be on a plane to you in a couple of days - you deal with him, I'm done!" Evidently, my son had been having some severe behavioral problems, managing to get suspended numerous times from school.
A few days after that phone call, I had no recourse but to take my son in. Needless to say, it was difficult, but I felt we could help him. Having stayed with us no more than a few months, we found out he had abused our youngest daughter who had just turned 5 years of age. Needless to say, this was the most painful and harrowing thing we've had to go through. We reported it, and it has gone through the naturally long process of court proceedings, ultimately ending in my son pleading guilty to the charges. After that (and having served a few months in juvenile detention), he was released to the custody of his mother with a temporary electronic home monitoring device (until he was under TX probation), ordered to attend therapy and cannot be with children unless supervised. He was just sent back to TX in early December, 2007.
As you can appreciate, it has been tremendously painful and harrowing. The mother was barely in the picture as this whole thing unfolded. Now, however, she has resurfaced with renewed threats to take me to court and to have the child support increased. I don't know how this woman has the gall to ask for more many in view of the above incident, and the fact that our son has already turned 18 years of age with no future prospects of finishing school. She will not divulge which school he is supposedly attending (they've moved several times). Based on the last known address, I called the school and was told they could not give me any further information/proof of enrollment/attendance even though I'm the father. At this rate, I feel he's never going to finish school and I'll spend the rest of my natural life paying.
If you could possibly give me any guidance/help/suggestions, I'd be very grateful. At this point, I'm desperate! Thanks for your time and patience wading through this long e-mail!
Thanks so much,
TX man in East Coast
