A_Loving_Father
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What is the name of your state? Arkansas (Go Hogs)
I am going to try to be as thorough as I can about this particular situation. I have recently filed for reduction in my child support due to a pay cut that I took since having to change jobs. I was behind by four weeks at one point in time, and my son's mother did not let me see him. We have standard visitation. I filed an incident report at the designated drop off point, but realized the written court order signed by both of our attorneys does not have the designated drop off point as stated by the judge in the courts. The police officer told me that without that being placed in the court order, i can not go to her door with police assistance to visit my son. I live 90 miles from her, so we meet half way and her house, my house, and the drop off point are located in three different counties. Last visitation, I was able to pick my son up because I got in contact with her husband and he brought my son to our designated point. However, when it came time to meet me to pick him up, she told me that i was to come all the way to her house, or she would charge me with kidnapping. Once again, her husband eventually came to pick him up. My son, who is only five, is caught in the middle of these games. He feels like its something that he has done. I keep reassuring him that we both (both being his mother and I) love him and want to spend more time with him. I not once degrade his mother, in front of him. My question is this, if I can provide a transcript of the judge's telling us the designated time and place for the drop off point, does that suffice? Also, can she charge me with kidnapping when I do show up to drop him off and she decides to either not show up, or not to wait if I happen to be a few minutes late, few being fifteen minutes at the most? She seems to think that she has me by the balls. I for one am tired of suffering from the mother-favoring courts in Arkansas. Please help me with suggestions on what i might be able to do to protect my interest in visitation rights to see my son.
I am going to try to be as thorough as I can about this particular situation. I have recently filed for reduction in my child support due to a pay cut that I took since having to change jobs. I was behind by four weeks at one point in time, and my son's mother did not let me see him. We have standard visitation. I filed an incident report at the designated drop off point, but realized the written court order signed by both of our attorneys does not have the designated drop off point as stated by the judge in the courts. The police officer told me that without that being placed in the court order, i can not go to her door with police assistance to visit my son. I live 90 miles from her, so we meet half way and her house, my house, and the drop off point are located in three different counties. Last visitation, I was able to pick my son up because I got in contact with her husband and he brought my son to our designated point. However, when it came time to meet me to pick him up, she told me that i was to come all the way to her house, or she would charge me with kidnapping. Once again, her husband eventually came to pick him up. My son, who is only five, is caught in the middle of these games. He feels like its something that he has done. I keep reassuring him that we both (both being his mother and I) love him and want to spend more time with him. I not once degrade his mother, in front of him. My question is this, if I can provide a transcript of the judge's telling us the designated time and place for the drop off point, does that suffice? Also, can she charge me with kidnapping when I do show up to drop him off and she decides to either not show up, or not to wait if I happen to be a few minutes late, few being fifteen minutes at the most? She seems to think that she has me by the balls. I for one am tired of suffering from the mother-favoring courts in Arkansas. Please help me with suggestions on what i might be able to do to protect my interest in visitation rights to see my son.
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