I'm actually going to disagree on this part of your reply (the rest is spot-on, of course). Since the OP was married at the time of the birth, the husband is presumed to be the legal father. In this case, the biological father is allowed to contest that presumption. Furthermore, in this case, it sounds like the biological father actually WANTS to step up to the plate and be the father (which is the right thing to do).A father is defined in the law as the one with whom you had sex and inseminated your egg with his sperm.
My point is that if the biological father proves paternity, that will be found. I get that hubby is presumed. So the actual Father will be the one who she willingly screwed and allowed to impregnate her. I understand the presumption. But I was beyond that in my point because she said Dad is the one who will raise the child. Well, OP is not allowing the actual biological father to do anything because her feelings are hurt and she is being petty.I'm actually going to disagree on this part of your reply (the rest is spot-on, of course). Since the OP was married at the time of the birth, the husband is presumed to be the legal father. In this case, the biological father is allowed to contest that presumption. Furthermore, in this case, it sounds like the biological father actually WANTS to step up to the plate and be the father (which is the right thing to do).
Yep yep - you're right. I just didn't want the OP to focus on that one statement as a way to justify her delusion.My point is that if the biological father proves paternity, that will be found. I get that hubby is presumed. So the actual Father will be the one who she willingly screwed and allowed to impregnate her. I understand the presumption. But I was beyond that in my point because she said Dad is the one who will raise the child. Well, OP is not allowing the actual biological father to do anything because her feelings are hurt and she is being petty.
Its not at all likely that there is anything that you can do. However, if there is something out there that might allow it, you would need a local family law attorney in your corner. It would not be something that you could do without one.I didn't ask to be bashed for the decision I made.
He didn't want a kid now he has just that, No child. Like he demanded. He can live with it. I don't trust him with her.
I asked for advice on whether or not something could be done in court to stop him
He probably just didn't want a kid with you. So what? Nothing you can do is going to change the reality that this is his child and you don't get to dictate whether he has a relationship with her, once paternity has been established. Better get your head around that now. Who cares if you don't trust him with her? That will count for nothing in court.I didn't ask to be bashed for the decision I made.
He didn't want a kid now he has just that, No child. Like he demanded. He can live with it. I don't trust him with her.
I asked for advice on whether or not something could be done in court to stop him
And that is the crux of the matter. That would likely shatter the bedrock upon which their existence is formed. Adoption is a wonderful gift and is not something to be ashamed of. But every child deserves to know where s/he comes from. Hopefully, with some introspection, OP can come to realize that she need not hide the truth from her child.None of them have suffered for growing up always knowing that the people they've thought of as Mom or Dad aren't biologically related to them. But I can imagine how hurt they would be if they didn't find that out until they were teens or adults.