court ordered day care expenses

[Ohiogal]

socal, you have absolutely no idea whether OP's judge will make a similar order (if you read the post the judge already did, and it was for "Defendant is also ordered to pay 50% of any employment or educated related child care costs") - you don't even know if OP"s state even has similar guidelines to enforce, let alone assume a judge will rule a certain way. - if you read my post, i did say "in my case" and also noted that I was in CA, orders though are enforceable effective the date the judge states till there is another order that states otherwise, that's in what ever state the person lives in.

I know you're trying to help and that's commendable, but in this case it really doesn't help the Op. - also as i stated, i hoped that it helped since it seemed another was harping on her that she was to blame, i do understand that the laws are different from state to state and to hotrodbaby21, if i've overstepped as Dogmatique has implied that i have, i do apologize, i know that going thru this crap with my ex is very draining, time consuming and pathetic that we have to be mom's to our ex's for the things they already know they should be taking care of. I wish you the best of luck and hope that you get everything that has been ordered for you.

(who has, incidentally, received a reply from an actual family attorney) - and it's commendable for you to defend as well although Ohio and Oklahoma may have different guidelines as well. Thankfully there's a disclaimer stating she wasn't giving any legal advice, i'd not appreciate my family attorney or guardian ad litem to BLAME me or my children or imply that I was lottery ticket money hungry for trying to seek advice from my peers to recover monies that were legally due to me by my ex.

Again, hotrodbaby21, if i've over stepped, i offer my humble apology, seeing the answers that you recv'd on this matter will ensure that I'll not seek advice from my "peers" thru here. Good luck to you and I hope that the Oklahoma courts smile you with the reimbursement you are due.

You are wrong. Seriously.

 

[swtwilma]

It would be wise of you to each week take a copy of the day care bill, a copy of your payment and on the way home from daycare, stop at the post office, certify mail him, with signature proof. By doing this you have signed proof that you have given him the bills each week. It will take you 5 extra minutes once a week and give you the documentation and proof in the future when you do file for enforcement.

The only way that you can enforce past bills is by having proof that you have given your ex the bills in a timley manner. Look at it from another angle, how does he know that you are paying if you don't give him the information?

Once you have not recieved payment for 30 days, file a motion to enforce through the courts. They will ask for all of your documentation (all of the certified proof and bills paid by you).

Don't give up, he needs to be responsible for his child.