meldresler
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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? KY
As quick background, 4 years ago my husband asked me for a divorce - he said he was selling our house, retiring, and moving himself to a place that fit HIS criteria (coastal and near HIS family, thus east coast). Just to clarify, this would mean a move of 3-10 hours from where we were living. I can be more specific if it would help.
We were in one of the most expensive cities in the country, so I asked if I could relocate with our then 5 year old to a place with cheaper housing, lots of family friendly features. I wanted her to have a real house, not, well, a parking spot. He limited our geographic scope even though he didn't know exactly where he was going, so we found a place 9 hours by car (from him, where he was then), cheap housing, and some secondary family - second cousins, etc. [My family is on the opposite side of the country, but he wouldn't let us move that far, etc.].
In the meantime, he was unable to sell his/our house, so he is still in the same house where we all lived together.
So things got ugly and he requested a custodial evaluation.
Their main finding was that I "unilaterally and impulsively" moved my child away either to isolate her from her father or to make visitation difficult. The report goes on and on about how I made this very poor decision in moving us to a place without family and social support.
And, their recommedation is that we move back to his locale and if I don't, they will recommend that he get custody.
So my question is: once such a report is issued, is there a process for some clarification. There was an amazing lack of closure in the process. There were many things I would have liked to talk through, things in which one record might say one thing (as an example, a pediatrician might make a diagnosis), but then an esteemed specialist amended/corrected the diagnosis. That kind of thing.
May I say it was one of the worst experiences of my life.What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?
As quick background, 4 years ago my husband asked me for a divorce - he said he was selling our house, retiring, and moving himself to a place that fit HIS criteria (coastal and near HIS family, thus east coast). Just to clarify, this would mean a move of 3-10 hours from where we were living. I can be more specific if it would help.
We were in one of the most expensive cities in the country, so I asked if I could relocate with our then 5 year old to a place with cheaper housing, lots of family friendly features. I wanted her to have a real house, not, well, a parking spot. He limited our geographic scope even though he didn't know exactly where he was going, so we found a place 9 hours by car (from him, where he was then), cheap housing, and some secondary family - second cousins, etc. [My family is on the opposite side of the country, but he wouldn't let us move that far, etc.].
In the meantime, he was unable to sell his/our house, so he is still in the same house where we all lived together.
So things got ugly and he requested a custodial evaluation.
Their main finding was that I "unilaterally and impulsively" moved my child away either to isolate her from her father or to make visitation difficult. The report goes on and on about how I made this very poor decision in moving us to a place without family and social support.
And, their recommedation is that we move back to his locale and if I don't, they will recommend that he get custody.
So my question is: once such a report is issued, is there a process for some clarification. There was an amazing lack of closure in the process. There were many things I would have liked to talk through, things in which one record might say one thing (as an example, a pediatrician might make a diagnosis), but then an esteemed specialist amended/corrected the diagnosis. That kind of thing.
May I say it was one of the worst experiences of my life.What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?