Zigner
Senior Member, Non-Attorney
That's an even further indicator that mom has NOT lost her rights to her child.The same court that gave me custody also granted me child support so ...
That's an even further indicator that mom has NOT lost her rights to her child.The same court that gave me custody also granted me child support so ...
That could be 2 minutes...heck, it could have been 30 seconds. You really have nothing there.boyfriend's mother had heart attack. Left house to go to hospital before sitter got there. She stated it was only a few minutes. Sitter was on her way Long enough that child bragged about being a big boy and staying home alone. But admits being a lil scared.
And if sitter had got in accident on way there? Or 7 yr old walked out the door? What if?That could be 2 minutes...heck, it could have been 30 seconds. You really have nothing there.
"What if" didn't happen so it's really not legally relevant. This was an emergency situation. Mom should have taken Jr. with her...but for whatever reason (and I'm sure she has a good one) she did not. She might end up having to take parenting classes. And she should.And if sitter had got in accident on way there? Or 7 yr old walked out the door? What if?
I want what's best for this little boy. Whether it be her or me. I want him to be raised by someone who will make him a priority. She gives him a great fun time when they visit but doesn't call for weeks between the visits. Has never been to a school/sport function. Doesn't understand my concern about being exposed to her many boy/girlfriends. I have done my absolute best to try and create a stable home. His dr and i have worked very close with finding an ADHD dosage that keeps him focusing in school but still allows him to be him. I have daily contact with his teacher, keep him involved in all the sports he loves, I don't want to keep him from her. I just want to know he's safe and a priority. He's never known anything but living with me. But honestly, as much as it'd hurt, if I thought he'd be better with her, I'd gladly let him go. This is all about him. Not me. Not her. His feelings, his childhood, the man he's going to become"What if" didn't happen so it's really not legally relevant. This was an emergency situation. Mom should have taken Jr. with her...but for whatever reason (and I'm sure she has a good one) she did not. She might end up having to take parenting classes. And she should.
Let me ask you...and please be honest...don't you want your daughter to take care of her child? Or do you want to keep custody till he is 18?
Here's the thing... She left him alone for the time it took the sitter to get there in an emergency situation. Could the sitter have gotten into an accident along the way? Perhaps. But I kind of see this as a "one off" situation, and she's not about to do that again.I want what's best for this little boy. Whether it be her or me. I want him to be raised by someone who will make him a priority. She gives him a great fun time when they visit but doesn't call for weeks between the visits. Has never been to a school/sport function. Doesn't understand my concern about being exposed to her many boy/girlfriends. I have done my absolute best to try and create a stable home. His dr and i have worked very close with finding an ADHD dosage that keeps him focusing in school but still allows him to be him. I have daily contact with his teacher, keep him involved in all the sports he loves, I don't want to keep him from her. I just want to know he's safe and a priority. He's never known anything but living with me. But honestly, as much as it'd hurt, if I thought he'd be better with her, I'd gladly let him go. This is all about him. Not me. Not her. His feelings, his childhood, the man he's going to become
You could talk to an attorney about trying to change jurisdiction to Michigan based on "inconvenient forum". However, that is a long shot. It is however worth at least a discussion with an attorney in Ohio.I want what's best for this little boy. Whether it be her or me. I want him to be raised by someone who will make him a priority. She gives him a great fun time when they visit but doesn't call for weeks between the visits. Has never been to a school/sport function. Doesn't understand my concern about being exposed to her many boy/girlfriends. I have done my absolute best to try and create a stable home. His dr and i have worked very close with finding an ADHD dosage that keeps him focusing in school but still allows him to be him. I have daily contact with his teacher, keep him involved in all the sports he loves, I don't want to keep him from her. I just want to know he's safe and a priority. He's never known anything but living with me. But honestly, as much as it'd hurt, if I thought he'd be better with her, I'd gladly let him go. This is all about him. Not me. Not her. His feelings, his childhood, the man he's going to become
If mom agreed to a change in custody, new case law states that it doesn't require a substantial change in circumstance because there was not a finding of unsuitability and therefore it would require ONLY best interests. So QUIT quoting me improperly when you allegedly have had me blocked for god knows how long, LD. You don't know the law, LD, and I have posted about the new caselaw.You could talk to an attorney about trying to change jurisdiction to Michigan based on "inconvenient forum". However, that is a long shot. It is however worth at least a discussion with an attorney in Ohio.
Also, according to an Ohio family law attorney who posts here frequently, because you have actual custody of the child it would require a significant change in circumstance for mom to take custody away from you. I am also guessing that the fact that mom gave a child born after your grandson up for adoption two years ago would factor in as well. That would tend to indicate that mom is not really prepared to be a full time parent.
What I do however believe will happen here, is that at least mom will walk away from this court case with a formal, court ordered parenting schedule that you will be required to obey if you do not want to risk losing custody of the child. When that happens, you will not have the authority to say no to anything that happens on mom's court ordered time, let alone the authority to say no to a vacation.
Then quite frankly whatever court ordered custody screwed up because visitation is supposed to also be dealt with at the time of the custody decision. OP needs to read her papers carefully.AT least as posted, there does not seem to be any ordered visitation rights. So if true, the OP has not violated anything or denied any provision by not allowing Mom to take child on a FL vacation.
I ask again, is Mom paying support as ordered ? How much is ordered?
There are over 3 pages of responses...perhaps you should unblock members if you wish to see said replies.I am confused. It appears as though she was replying to a lot of people who asked her questions with her string of posts, but there are no posts there.
Considering custody is what I do as an Ohio attorney... yeah I am right about that. But the case will happen in Ohio and she should get counsel.OG may welll be correct that your prior failure to take proper notification steps a few years back is a nonstarter in Ohio ....but all the more reason you are going to need Ohio legal counsel in this matter