singlemama89
Junior Member
I am in Washington State. My son turns 2 next month and has only seen his father twice. He lives about 45 minutes from where I live and works only 30 minutes away.
Once when he was 3 months ago and once a few weeks ago.
He has not tried to have a relationship with our son what so ever. After our son was born, I reached out to him to let him know I gave birth as well as texted him and emailed him pictures. I received no response. He did meet him in October 2015 for about an hour, after that he made no contact with me again. Since then, I would randomly text and email him pictures and give him an update on how our child was doing. I told him if he was interested in meeting our son and spending time with him we can meet at a central location. I never received a response. I filed for child support, however they had to serve him to began anything. Finally last year (September) they were able to serve him. We took a DNA test and received our results in November. Even after the results came in, he did not attempt to contact me at all. In February, I tried to reach out to him again with newer pictures and he actually replied back to me. We met at a park were he spent about 45 minutes. He would text me saying how he couldn't wait to be more involved but never actually asked to see him. Both times we saw him, I was the one who drove (30 minutes each way) & arranged it.
He was served with the order to establish an order for child support and texted me asking if I had him served. I told him that was child support and now all of a sudden he was 50/50 custody of our son. I take it he wants to reduce the child support amount. He asked to have our son overnight every weekend and wants to take him to New York to meet his family for a week in July. I calmly explained that they have no relationship, taking my son from someone he is with constantly to being with a complete stranger is not going to go well. I told him we can come up with a parenting plan, I would prefer at least a few months of him meeting our son on the weekend with either me and my sister at a park, spending time with him and establishing a relationship. After a few months, we can discuss an overnight visit every other weekend. I told him I wasn't comfortable with him taking our son out of state without a custody agreement, but I would be more than willing to fly with my son to meet his family or they can visit us. I am a single mom who works full time however between daycare costs and not having any type of financial support from him currently, I cannot afford 3k-4k which is what attorneys are asking in my area. Is there a chance if he decides to take me to court a judge would grant him 50/50 custody??
Also, he is in the reserves and will be deploying in October.....
Once when he was 3 months ago and once a few weeks ago.
He has not tried to have a relationship with our son what so ever. After our son was born, I reached out to him to let him know I gave birth as well as texted him and emailed him pictures. I received no response. He did meet him in October 2015 for about an hour, after that he made no contact with me again. Since then, I would randomly text and email him pictures and give him an update on how our child was doing. I told him if he was interested in meeting our son and spending time with him we can meet at a central location. I never received a response. I filed for child support, however they had to serve him to began anything. Finally last year (September) they were able to serve him. We took a DNA test and received our results in November. Even after the results came in, he did not attempt to contact me at all. In February, I tried to reach out to him again with newer pictures and he actually replied back to me. We met at a park were he spent about 45 minutes. He would text me saying how he couldn't wait to be more involved but never actually asked to see him. Both times we saw him, I was the one who drove (30 minutes each way) & arranged it.
He was served with the order to establish an order for child support and texted me asking if I had him served. I told him that was child support and now all of a sudden he was 50/50 custody of our son. I take it he wants to reduce the child support amount. He asked to have our son overnight every weekend and wants to take him to New York to meet his family for a week in July. I calmly explained that they have no relationship, taking my son from someone he is with constantly to being with a complete stranger is not going to go well. I told him we can come up with a parenting plan, I would prefer at least a few months of him meeting our son on the weekend with either me and my sister at a park, spending time with him and establishing a relationship. After a few months, we can discuss an overnight visit every other weekend. I told him I wasn't comfortable with him taking our son out of state without a custody agreement, but I would be more than willing to fly with my son to meet his family or they can visit us. I am a single mom who works full time however between daycare costs and not having any type of financial support from him currently, I cannot afford 3k-4k which is what attorneys are asking in my area. Is there a chance if he decides to take me to court a judge would grant him 50/50 custody??
Also, he is in the reserves and will be deploying in October.....