southernandi
Junior Member
What is the name of your state?
Oklahoma.
I recently divorced and my husband and I agreed on most things amicably. I had an affair shortly before I left and I let him be the custodial parent because I felt guilty. He is an extremely fair person and I thought we would be able to work it out. We came up with a good child support payment plan and 50/50 visitation plan. He hired private investigators the week after I told him I wanted a divorce (May 25th) and that's how he found out about the affair. I broke it off, but he is still having them follow me. They had a gps system on my car, my cell phone traced, and they've been following me since then. He is very angry and now wants full custody with me only having 120 days a year. He said if I give it to him now and not wait until they go to school ( they are 4 adn 2) he won't make me pay child support and won't sue me for the infidelity. He says he has a good lawyer and that there were many things that would hurt my case. I have gone out a lot on nights I don't have the kids and I've seen other people and I moved out a month before our divorce was final, but it was supposed to be final a few weeks after I moved. I don't do drugs, I don't have anyone else other than girl friends around my kids and I take good care of them. He says my 4 year old says my house is dirty, which it isn't, and that he wants to go to dad's house. He says the same to me, i want to go to mommy's house. He says he needs to know asap if I am going to give him the visitation back. I am not, but he says he has a good lawyer and I need to know what I should do/ what my chances are.
Also, he has been harrassing me via email. I printed off 160 pages he had sent between the 24th and the 29th of August. He sends about 30 a day to my office and I've told him to stop, but he sends it until I respond.
Oklahoma.
I recently divorced and my husband and I agreed on most things amicably. I had an affair shortly before I left and I let him be the custodial parent because I felt guilty. He is an extremely fair person and I thought we would be able to work it out. We came up with a good child support payment plan and 50/50 visitation plan. He hired private investigators the week after I told him I wanted a divorce (May 25th) and that's how he found out about the affair. I broke it off, but he is still having them follow me. They had a gps system on my car, my cell phone traced, and they've been following me since then. He is very angry and now wants full custody with me only having 120 days a year. He said if I give it to him now and not wait until they go to school ( they are 4 adn 2) he won't make me pay child support and won't sue me for the infidelity. He says he has a good lawyer and that there were many things that would hurt my case. I have gone out a lot on nights I don't have the kids and I've seen other people and I moved out a month before our divorce was final, but it was supposed to be final a few weeks after I moved. I don't do drugs, I don't have anyone else other than girl friends around my kids and I take good care of them. He says my 4 year old says my house is dirty, which it isn't, and that he wants to go to dad's house. He says the same to me, i want to go to mommy's house. He says he needs to know asap if I am going to give him the visitation back. I am not, but he says he has a good lawyer and I need to know what I should do/ what my chances are.
Also, he has been harrassing me via email. I printed off 160 pages he had sent between the 24th and the 29th of August. He sends about 30 a day to my office and I've told him to stop, but he sends it until I respond.
Last edited: