frostbyte3964
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Utah
My situation is a bit different. I am currently workingin the field. I am trying to find a job back in Utah and set to have no job after January so I can go home and deal with this divorce. I may have a job, but it's not a good parket to be out of a job.
Ideally I would like joint custody of the kids, but have it so they could go to whichever parents house they wanted to so this is easiest on them. I don't feel either parent having sole custody is good for the kids and I don't feel it would have to be the normal joint custody. I have 4 boys under 10. I could live close enough so they can easily go to her house if I have them and they need some mommy time and vice versa if she would allow it. I don't want the divorce in the first place, but she is doing it anyways and wanting basically everything like a woman scorn.
What I would also like is to stay i the field until I have a job. That way we are not using savings while hoping to find a job. It's always easier to find a job if you have a job. I'm sure lawyers fees are going to eat through savings fast enough.
So my question is, realisitically speaking, can I actually get joint or even sole custody, but allow for more of a joint deal if I am in Utah, but she have sole custody until I get a job there? I feel it's a pipe dream, but I think it would be best for the kids. If our state is 95% going to give mom custody, is it just throwing away money to try and causing unnecessary financial strain and pain for the kids? I want them to know their dad didn't just not want them. I want the marriage to work because I don't want the kids to suffer. I have a good lawyer, but is this beyond even a good lawyers abilities?
My situation is a bit different. I am currently workingin the field. I am trying to find a job back in Utah and set to have no job after January so I can go home and deal with this divorce. I may have a job, but it's not a good parket to be out of a job.
Ideally I would like joint custody of the kids, but have it so they could go to whichever parents house they wanted to so this is easiest on them. I don't feel either parent having sole custody is good for the kids and I don't feel it would have to be the normal joint custody. I have 4 boys under 10. I could live close enough so they can easily go to her house if I have them and they need some mommy time and vice versa if she would allow it. I don't want the divorce in the first place, but she is doing it anyways and wanting basically everything like a woman scorn.
What I would also like is to stay i the field until I have a job. That way we are not using savings while hoping to find a job. It's always easier to find a job if you have a job. I'm sure lawyers fees are going to eat through savings fast enough.
So my question is, realisitically speaking, can I actually get joint or even sole custody, but allow for more of a joint deal if I am in Utah, but she have sole custody until I get a job there? I feel it's a pipe dream, but I think it would be best for the kids. If our state is 95% going to give mom custody, is it just throwing away money to try and causing unnecessary financial strain and pain for the kids? I want them to know their dad didn't just not want them. I want the marriage to work because I don't want the kids to suffer. I have a good lawyer, but is this beyond even a good lawyers abilities?