Daughter's AF husband arrested for Domestic Violence

[Silverplum]

I stand both corrected and amazed. I apologize for being entirely incorrect; but am not at all sorry that I find this amazingly weird.

Thanks to OP for providing links, and to the others who added info.

 

[CourtClerk]

I stand both corrected and amazed. I apologize for being entirely incorrect; but am not at all sorry that I find this amazingly weird.

Thanks to OP for providing links, and to the others who added info.

I am also in this boat, however, I will say, that I would take the free housing over the money any day...

I have an additional question though (since we're all getting a lesson today). If in the divorce the wife is awarded spousal and/or child support, does the get the court awarded amount in addition to the amounts mentioned above? Is it offset?

 

[fozzy2]

. She did file civilian charges, and he was held in the County Jail. ...

Not to nitpick, but she probably didn't "file charges", the district attorney did. Her permission is not needed for the state to prosecute. She could give an "afidavit of non-prosecution" (or local equivalent) but the state is not bound by it. Cases are routinely prosecuted where the victim doesn't want a prosecution, and even where the "victim" denies that any assault took place. Although apparently not an issue in this case, it is important to realized that criminal prosecution is probably out of both the victim and assailant's hands.

 

[FordellCastle]

Thankfully for her sake and my grandson's she will pursue civilian charges also. She was told by someone in the chain of command that they expect him to face court martial. My daughter did speak to his mother, who was so kind and apologetic. Evidently, he was violent towards family members also while growing up. So many times you hear the mothers of the accused saying their sons could not have done such a thing, but in this situation that is not the case. He is an Ecuadoran native, having lived in the US from age 4. He was to receive his citizenship, but did not go to court-he forgot and slept through it. Thank you for all the replies.

 

[CourtClerk]

Well it's nice to know she'll have a support system on both sides of the family. Make sure the little one learns Spanish while he's young. It's easier to teach babies 2 languages, it'll help him get a better job when he gets to be a Big Boy... and (tell him this when he gets to high school), it's an easy A!!

God Bless

 

[fozzy2]

He is an Ecuadoran native, having lived in the US from age 4. He was to receive his citizenship, but did not go to court-he forgot and slept through it. .

I hope he's kept up on his Spanish. Depending on what he gets convicted of (assuming a conviction) he may be headed back to Ecuador. If he thinks the military is tough, wait 'til he meets the INS...

 

[FordellCastle]

My daughter speaks fluent Spanish-when I was first divorced, we lived in a city with a large Hispanic population. Her husband's mother doesn't speak much English, so I am sure the baby will be bilingual.

 

[Fl_renter]

I am also in this boat, however, I will say, that I would take the free housing over the money any day...

Really? seen any good base/post housing lately cause I sure haven't! Of course, the AF is supposed to have the best housing out of all the services.

 

[CourtClerk]

Really? seen any good base/post housing lately cause I sure haven't! Of course, the AF is supposed to have the best housing out of all the services.

I haven't... admittedly, however, I'm just thinking, with the way the rental market is, I know some people who live in the middle of the ghetto paying sky high rental pricing. The neighborhood sucks, the whole apartment is as big as my livingroom...you'd think the military would treat their people better than that especially since they don't pay well.

 

[Fl_renter]

I haven't... admittedly, however, I'm just thinking, with the way the rental market is, I know some people who live in the middle of the ghetto paying sky high rental pricing. The neighborhood sucks, the whole apartment is as big as my livingroom...you'd think the military would treat their people better than that especially since they don't pay well.

It all depends on where you go really because on DH's current duty station, the on base housing was ok but the off base was a real ghetto. Someone housing is great, lots of bases/posts are turning over housing to civilians, don't know that it's a good thing. You get housing allowance and you rent is based on that allowance.

You would think they get treated better, huh! A smart person doesn't join the military for housing though, no one forces you to live there (unless you are overseas). You will always see the "poorer" military in housing, which is a major benefit to them. It could always be worse and they didn't offer housing as a choice at all.

As much as I love to complain about military pay, the benefits are awesome, no doubt about it. Anyone that says otherwise, needs to try living as a civi for a while and see how long they can make it without struggling.

 

[DRTDEVL]

It all depends on where you go really because on DH's current duty station, the on base housing was ok but the off base was a real ghetto. Someone housing is great, lots of bases/posts are turning over housing to civilians, don't know that it's a good thing. You get housing allowance and you rent is based on that allowance.

You would think they get treated better, huh! A smart person doesn't join the military for housing though, no one forces you to live there (unless you are overseas). You will always see the "poorer" military in housing, which is a major benefit to them. It could always be worse and they didn't offer housing as a choice at all.

As much as I love to complain about military pay, the benefits are awesome, no doubt about it. Anyone that says otherwise, needs to try living as a civi for a while and see how long they can make it without struggling.

Yes, it really depends on where you go.

Back in 2002, I flat-out REFUSED to live on-base at Mac Dill AFB due to the squalor the troops were subjected to... But they eventually will have all the units replaced with some real nice duplexes on stilts (flood-prone hurricane area). I have also seen some real nice housing at Ft Irwin.

As for being forced into housing, it all depends on local policy. I was forced into the current 2 bedroom ghetto-a$$ apartment here in Germany due to policy... But I would also be forced into housing at Ft Polk, LA due to a lack of suitable rentals and an overabundance of on-post housing.