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dealing with controling step mom

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What is the name of your state? Ohio

My sons father couldn't care less if he had visitation but his wife keeps pushing for it. She doesn't seem to know she is not really his parent. She had his teacher changed simply because she didn't like her and I had to put him back in the class he has been in for the last 3 years. (He's in preschool) Yesterday she went on his field trip with him to Lowe's. They built planters and planted flowers in them to give to thier mothers for Mother's Day. She took his home with her. She calls his doctors and the pharmacy pretending to be me and tries to change things there or get information. Her husband has a right to any information there is about my son but since he doesn't give a damn and won't call himself she does that. She wants to go to his doctors appointments with us and even to his counseling sesions. No matter how much I give her she just wants more and she uses my son just to get me going. Is there anything I can do? Is it legal for her to do these things???? The school really believed it was me calling and that is why they switched his teacher. Isn't that illegal? Plz give me some advice on how to deal with her. I would be happy if she wanted to be involved in my sons life because she loved him, but she does these things just so she can shove it in my face and try to make me mad. I'm tired of being in knots all the time. Every time I get him back from them she sends me these long letters of her "demands". He husband doesn't even know or care what they are about. How many rights does she actuallly have to my son?
 


BelizeBreeze

Senior Member
xxnatalixx said:
What is the name of your state? Ohio

My sons father couldn't care less if he had visitation but his wife keeps pushing for it. She doesn't seem to know she is not really his parent. She had his teacher changed simply because she didn't like her and I had to put him back in the class he has been in for the last 3 years. (He's in preschool) Yesterday she went on his field trip with him to Lowe's. They built planters and planted flowers in them to give to thier mothers for Mother's Day. She took his home with her. She calls his doctors and the pharmacy pretending to be me and tries to change things there or get information. Her husband has a right to any information there is about my son but since he doesn't give a damn and won't call himself she does that. She wants to go to his doctors appointments with us and even to his counseling sesions. No matter how much I give her she just wants more and she uses my son just to get me going. Is there anything I can do? Is it legal for her to do these things???? The school really believed it was me calling and that is why they switched his teacher. Isn't that illegal? Plz give me some advice on how to deal with her. I would be happy if she wanted to be involved in my sons life because she loved him, but she does these things just so she can shove it in my face and try to make me mad. I'm tired of being in knots all the time. Every time I get him back from them she sends me these long letters of her "demands". He husband doesn't even know or care what they are about. How many rights does she actuallly have to my son?
Send her a certified (RRR) letter demanding she immediately cease and desist impersonating you in interactions with the school, medical providers or any other person in authority over your son or you will be forced to file an action for intentional interference with parental authority.

I would also have a heart to heart with the principal of the school about discussing your child's situation over the phone with ANYONE.
 

BL

Senior Member
BelizeBreeze said:
Send her a certified (RRR) letter demanding she immediately cease and desist impersonating you in interactions with the school, medical providers or any other person in authority over your son or you will be forced to file an action for intentional interference with parental authority.

I would also have a heart to heart with the principal of the school about discussing your child's situation over the phone with ANYONE.
In addition , keep a log , and proofs of Her asserting an authority She does NOT have , and if need be get a restraining Order against Her .

Advise the School , medical , etc . in writting that they are NOT to allow her in the school or school funtions ., or communicate with her . If there an issue that needs immediate attention have them contact you . Also to verify it is you ( by a return call ) , that is calling them .

If all else fails take it to Court to make these into orders .
 

Halls

Member
Yep, I agree do all those things. She is clearly overstepping her bounds to the extreme and if you send her a letter threatening court she will likely back off. If not she will likely face consequences by the judge.
 

BelizeBreeze

Senior Member
Sorry blondie, but the poster can ONLY control the stepmom OUTSIDE the presence of the father. SO, if stepmom attends a function with dad, such a demand as you envision is worthless.
 

BL

Senior Member
BelizeBreeze said:
Sorry blondie, but the poster can ONLY control the stepmom OUTSIDE the presence of the father. SO, if stepmom attends a function with dad, such a demand as you envision is worthless.

I read the Father could give a rats ass , and Step Mom is the one interfereing , but as for Dad being there you have a valid point . Also IF Dad were to give the school permission , it would be up to the Court .

The way I read it though is Dad is NOT involved at all .
 

stealth2

Under the Radar Member
And as long as the school function is a PUBLIC event, the school cannot simply bar the stepmothe's attendence, with or without the father.
 

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