denial part two...opinions please..

[BL]

Do the kids know that he beat the crap out of a kid and no one did crap ? And if so who told them ?

Oh and was the Court informed before he was awarded visits ?

Ya forgot the dirty socks in the other corner of the closet .

 

[speedcam]

yes the kids know, they were all at his house when it happened. also child services came over to do interviews, and take pictures of his bloody lips and black eyes. but because of the young age they said they had no real proof. the custody was awarded because this county pushes for 50/50. the only person that said anything him not being able to be around the kids was his PO after she threw him in jail for detailing death threats about their mother and me to the kids.
i know you all think it stupid and i should just relax but the point here is that he is alittle nuts, he has a loaded 45 in his car( which was reported) but back woods cops are idiots and called him so they could search his car( i know if i got called i wouldn't leave anything in my car). he's been arrested for leaving sexual harrassment calls on our voice mail plus a message putting a price on my head. and he also was taken to court for sexually assaulting his 15 yr old cousin( but some how managed to cut a deal and got that to be a "closed file".

 

[caligirl73]

Not sure what to make of this post. Although, what I know of the definition of a "tweaker" is a drug addict. Whether they meant it as that or not is unknown, but here in Ca. that is what a tweaker is.

I call my littlest "bubba" or "pooh" or "scooter" and my littlest is a girl. I call my son by the first initial of his name which is "b" or I call him "doof" (he is almost 12, thinks its cool to be called that, lol).

I personally would not want to be called a tweaker, only because I dont do drugs!

 

[Souix]

Isn't 20/20, Nightline or one of those shows a nationally broadcast show? One of them had a full hour of Crystal Meth information. Tweakers are the drug users that sit around all day and do nothing but tweak. They call themselves tweakers.

 

[SMURFEELAW]

to the OP

It's not like the people on here are unsympathetic and it does sound like this guy is a real loser. But you answered the question yourself that the court is not going to listen. All you can do is protect them while they are with you and hope to God nothing happens, because obviously you have exhausted all your efforts with the police, cps and courts. Until you have rock solid proof and it is sad to say your childrens' testimony isn't enough there seems to be nothing that can be done. So I guess all I am trying to say is that you have to learn to live with it or it will eat you up and eventually effect your time with your family. They will eventually be old enough that the court will listen to what they want and where they want to stay just pray that they are okay until that time comes. Have you considered getting them into counseling on your time? Maybe it would help them deal. Good Luck

 

[speedcam]

It's not like the people on here are unsympathetic and it does sound like this guy is a real loser. But you answered the question yourself that the court is not going to listen. All you can do is protect them while they are with you and hope to God nothing happens, because obviously you have exhausted all your efforts with the police, cps and courts. Until you have rock solid proof and it is sad to say your childrens' testimony isn't enough there seems to be nothing that can be done. So I guess all I am trying to say is that you have to learn to live with it or it will eat you up and eventually effect your time with your family. They will eventually be old enough that the court will listen to what they want and where they want to stay just pray that they are okay until that time comes. Have you considered getting them into counseling on your time? Maybe it would help them deal. Good Luck

*** Finally!!.... some one that has an actual answer. we have had them in counseling three times. ( and all by the childrens request because they were scared of him) they wanted to talk to some one and didn't want to get my wife or i all upset and have tons more problems with him. actually it hasn't caused problems with the time with family.it has actually made me spend more time with them and also let them help my work on the house and things. ya know. teaching them tricks of trades. i know what you mean about

"They will eventually be old enough that the court will listen to what they want and where they want to stay "

but its hard to sit here and listen to them tell me they want nothing to do with him and really don't want to go there, and its really getting hard for me to tell them "its your dad, he has a right to see you and spend time with you", like i have been doing for the past month.
thanks for the thoughts.......

as for the rest of you......... do you actually thing an 8 year old is on drugs? i hope not .so that would mean the term "tweaker" would not be used in this post the way you are all thinking. he is used it to make fun of him why? . because what do people that have seizures do? (hint: flop around like a fish out of water) or "tweak".

 

[SMURFEELAW]

Your welcome and keep it up. As hard as it is you have to abide by the order or your wife will lose the parenting time. And that would be the worst thing for the kids. Keep them in counseling at some point maybe the counselor will agree to testify that the amount of time the kids are with the father is not in their best interest. And I am sad to say it but the father could mean it in the drug sense major "tweakers" (people addicted to speed) often have seizure like withdrawls or episodes when they have been "up" too long. So father may have meant exactly that but he may not have he may not know the meaning of the word and really he may be trying to help the kid make lighter of the situation (who knows his reasoning) but pick your battles and stay strong, if half of what you posted is true they need a strong male influnece in their lives more than ever. Good luck and I will keep your children in my prayers.