Did I Set Myself Up for Problems?

[AHA]

"Did you set yourself up for problems"?

Damn skippy, you don't just have someone's(anyone's) kid, drift in and out of their life on YOUR accord, extorting money one second and vanishing the next, and expect the other parent to accept your irratical behavior so you can live a blissful life in ignorance forever and ever. If the money was so important to you, you could have file for cs a looooooooong time ago.
These are human beings you are toying with, it will have way more severe consequences than stupid kiddie pranks when you were young.

And stop "frauding" men that you can't get pregnant! Like someone already said, if you have at least one ovary and and a uterus, there's always a possibility!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[somedude]

This whole situation of her asking for the $3k years ago -- then telling the biodad after that to pay support "or else" (and him paying) -- makes me wonder:

- does this technically qualify as extortion, per se? Would this guy actually have a case if he wanted to (not as a way to get out of support) that she extorted money from him.

I wish this guy luck and hope he tries to get all the visitation -- and even fight for custody, if possible. All of these years she didn't bother to establish paternity and now that the kids only know the guy she's married to as their dad, it's got to make it extremely difficult for him.

The OP clearly only has money in mind.

I imagine it's just a matter of time before BethM comes back to spin it in her "guys suck" direction.

 

[BethM]

I imagine it's just a matter of time before BethM comes back to spin it in her "guys suck" direction.

Yep, just a matter of time....

 

[stepmom65]

You posted:
**He IS cooperating & isn't fighting CS. I don't want to paint a negative picture of this guy.**

You've painted a very ugly negative picture about yourself, though.

 

[JosieBrown]

Step up to the plate

What astounds me, Beth, is that you only have harsh words for the father in this situation. Mom's no angel, either. She did the horizontal tango w/o protection - just as he did. She also tried to extort $3k from him. As well as extorting support payments. Let's add that she has the kids thinking some other guy is their father, and it sure doesn't sound as though she went to any great lengths to allow bioDad to get to know his kids. Gee, that shows great character. Not.

Should Dad help support his children? Absolutely. Should Mom get support back to birth? No way. I hope this guy files for joint custody and/or a hugely generous visitation schedule so that he can hopefully form a bond with the children he helped create.

If the man need to breed with his seeds, and will not accept respondability of his deed. He need to be neutured.

 

[Hisbabygirl77]

Ok how is the man the bad one in this picture. The poster lied about being able to get pregnant. Not only did she play the part of whore but she was also a liar. Then whenever she needs money she wants the MAN to accept responsiblity for the kids and pay up. Now after 6+ years she is trying to get child support again and never once has she brought up caring about how not having the father in the childrens lives matter. All she cares about is the money she can take from this man. Not about him being able to play a part in the childrens lives. Fine great have him pay child support. I think he is very smart to wait until something is ordered by the way you have jerked him around all these years. I hope to God though that he goes for visitation. From the sounds of it maybe he will be able to show these children what morals are. The mother obviously can't since she has the morals of a hooker. Normally I am not rude on these posts but you my dear are low.

 

[nextwife]

If the man need to breed with his seeds, and will not accept respondability of his deed. He need to be neutured.

And if woman would use more discretion regarding when and with whom they have sex, and they were slightly proactive about preventing pregnancy, there would be a lot more kids growing up able to have both parents in their lives. And maybe, if the laws REALLY allowed BOTH parents equal footing in custody, fewer woman would be so indiscrimante about getting pregnant because they'd not automatically know they'd get custody..

How many woman who do get knocked up say "Oh, I'm going to take responsibilty. I'm willing to pay him CS monthly to raise our child" Rsponsibilty means BOTH raising a child and supporting them. It is unfair that womans get the BEST part, the having the kids in their lives, and the men seldom are allowed that part of being a parent. They are often merely treated as the wallet, but not allowed any part of the decision making in raising the child. And if you don't agree that custody the BETTER option, then why do so many fight so hard for custody?

FYI- There are a lot of woman out there who should also stop making babies, men aren't the only ones who may deserve neutering.

 

[stealth2]

If the man need to breed with his seeds, and will not accept respondability of his deed. He need to be neutured.

Don't quit your day job.