Divorce from cheating spouse

[CourtClerk]

If she married him 2 months before he deployed overseas, he already HAD his orders, therefore she already knew he'd be gone and for how long.

She's not an innocent here. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to know that deployment means you aren't going to be home.

 

[stealth2]

Though, I'll tell ya... I could've stayed married to my ex if he wasn't ever around! *Easily*.

 

[cyjeff]

None of which allows the ex to take up with another man.

None of which allows the ex to betray a service man.

Dear John letters have been around since the Romans fought the Spartans. Doesn't make them right.

 

[Proserpina]

None of which allows the ex to take up with another man.

None of which allows the ex to betray a service man.

Dear John letters have been around since the Romans fought the Spartans. Doesn't make them right.

Not right perhaps, but not illegal.

Does it suck? Yeah, frankly it does. I'm sorry, but you don't marry a service member two months before deployment and NOT know that deployment plans have been made.

 

[muchneededhelp]

Not to speak for Stealth, but I'm leaning towards the fact that your comment was totally inappropriate. I know that I found it offensive.

Couldn't agree more. I went the last 3 months of my pregnancy and the following 15 months after that without my husband. I didn't get the raw deal- I was safe, financially stable, and enjoying freedom. He's the one who got it.

OP should see about have his POA find him a lawyer locally and get in contact with the lawyer from there. E-mails, phone calls, any way of contact and start as soon as possible. I know it can be difficult being deployed to gain access to communication, but I don't see the point in delaying the inevitable. Stop supporting this woman.

ecmst12: No, not that he deserved to be cheated on. But maybe she didn't quite know what she was getting into when she married him. I was simply feeling some sympathy for her pain. Perhaps no one else feels it and you all just think she's an evil witch. I disagree. 2 sides.

I understand that more than you know- it's quite lonely. BUT she could of told him the truth that she wasn't prepared for fidelity and loneliness and agree to split instead of cheating behind his back WHILE he supported her. Honesty goes a long way.

 

[ecmst12]

BUT she could of told him the truth that she wasn't prepared for fidelity and loneliness and agree to split instead of cheating behind his back WHILE he supported her. Honesty goes a long way.

I do agree with this...however I get the feeling that they are both pretty young and pretty clueless about the whole marriage thing to begin with. And in ANY failed marriage, it's almost unheard of for it to be ONLY one person's fault.

 

[Proserpina]

I do agree with this...however I get the feeling that they are both pretty young and pretty clueless about the whole marriage thing to begin with. And in ANY failed marriage, it's almost unheard of for it to be ONLY one person's fault.

Yeap.

It takes two to make it, and two to break it.

 

[swrdmbo]

I don't know how young she is...he said she has several other children that are not his. I agree that if he was deployed 2 months after the marriage she already knew he was going.

Doesn't excuse how she has been acting. He needs to get rid of her...ASAP...I don't care what her story is.