Do I Have Enough for an Ex Parte Case?

[Interceptor 97]

Look, get your child the counciling/therapy during your parenting time.

At the very least, the kid has a lot of stress in her life from the adults around her.

However, if there's something more sinister going on, the counsellor/therapist, as a mandated reporter, and credible 3rd party, can get you to the point where you have actual proof.

She was actually in therapy in school and will likely go back but that really doesn't address my dilemma in the slightest. I'm interested in keeping her away from her mom's lousy choices and irresponsibility, not just have a therapist lined up after God-knows-what happens down the road.

 

[not2cleverRed]

She was actually in therapy in school and will likely go back but that really doesn't address my dilemma in the slightest. I'm interested in keeping her away from her mom's lousy choices and irresponsibility, not just have a therapist lined up after God-knows-what happens down the road.

Sorry, but that's not how it works.

You have to be patient and wait like everyone else.

 

[Just Blue]

She was actually in therapy in school and will likely go back but that really doesn't address my dilemma in the slightest. I'm interested in keeping her away from her mom's lousy choices and irresponsibility, not just have a therapist lined up after God-knows-what happens down the road.

Have you addressed your concerns with Mom?

 

[Interceptor 97]

Have you addressed your concerns with Mom?

Yes, I have. After I picked our kid up and found out it's that person's house I told her I didn't want her there. She essentially proceeds to say she doesn't know what I'm talking about and nothing had ever happened, completely contradicting earlier (and later) conversations about the abuse going on. And all of that is in my timeline I have ready to show a judge or a lawyer.

She had a lot of mental health issues. That I'm not sure I can prove as easy but can at least demonstrate numerous patterns of lies, contradictions, stories changing, and a whole lot of other nonsense (I wanted to keep my initial post from going too long but there's a lot more).

 

[Just Blue]

Yes, I have. After I picked our kid up and found out it's that person's house I told her I didn't want her there. She essentially proceeds to say she doesn't know what I'm talking about and nothing had ever happened, completely contradicting earlier (and later) conversations about the abuse going on. And all of that is in my timeline I have ready to show a judge or a lawyer.

She had a lot of mental health issues. That I'm not sure I can prove as easy but can at least demonstrate numerous patterns of lies, contradictions, stories changing, and a whole lot of other nonsense (I wanted to keep my initial post from going too long but there's a lot more).

Is it possible for you to move closer to Mom...as in her town/city? You would be able to get more custody if you lived closer.

 

[Interceptor 97]

Is it possible for you to move closer to Mom...as in her town/city? You would be able to get more custody if you lived closer.

Last resort. My kid likes all the stuff we do here and we have friends/lives/careers here. But if nothing else works it's not outside the realm of possibility.

 

[Interceptor 97]

Is it possible for you to move closer to Mom...as in her town/city? You would be able to get more custody if you lived closer.

I might've forgot to mention but mom has also flaked on many of her days on most weeks so far this summer. Not to say that's a reason for ex parte but at one point she flaked on a doctor's appointment to sleep in and then didn't see our kid for 5 weeks. I would venture to guess that could all weigh in during future trips to court.

 

[Interceptor 97]

Sorry, but that's not how it works.

You have to be patient and wait like everyone else.

I had to process that one for a minute and partly because I was busy with dinner but you are actually sitting there and telling me to wait for awful things to happen to my daughter before I can do anything. No, that's not how it works. I will be tuning out all future responses from you from here on out. Have a great day.

 

[not2cleverRed]

I had to process that one for a minute and partly because I was busy with dinner but you are actually sitting there and telling me to wait for awful things to happen to my daughter before I can do anything. No, that's not how it works. I will be tuning out all future responses from you from here on out. Have a great day.

And now we start the count down to the OG effect!

 

[adjusterjack]

I'm amazed that obviously violent individuals and rapists can just be dismissed as perfectly safe to have around children but okay.

Nobody's dismissing anything. Hyperbole like that won't get your very far in court.

I have records of her admitting assault numerous times.

What kinds of records?

She would have a hard time saying these screenshots are lies.

Screen shots of what?

plus records from phone companies csn be accessed by the time later court dates roll around.

Records of what? If it's anything that can make your case you get them up front by subpoena.

I'm interested in keeping her away from her mom's lousy choices and irresponsibility, not just have a therapist lined up after God-knows-what happens down the road.

More hyperbole. I haven't seen any "evidence" yet.

That I'm not sure I can prove as easy but can at least demonstrate numerous patterns of lies, contradictions, stories changing, and a whole lot of other nonsense

None of that is likely to convince a judge to award you custody.

I would venture to guess that could all weigh in during future trips to court.

You aren't likely to get future trips to court if you don't make your case on the first trip.

you are actually sitting there and telling me to wait for awful things to happen to my daughter before I can do anything. No, that's not how it works. I will be tuning out all future responses from you from here on out. Have a great day.

More hyperbole and shooting the messenger to boot.

I can see that you don't like what you are being told here and are getting defensive about how you plan to handle yourself in court. Well, we're not all lawyers, but we've been around the block a lot more times than you have and we know what we are talking about.

If you don't want to heed out opinions, please put the lawyer at the top of that list and see if he/she doesn't tell you the same thing about "evidence."