What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? New York
My daughter recently obtained her divorce, however they had shared custody of their 2 boys, ages 6 & 8, until this past Wednesday, when temporary custody was given to her, and every other w/e to the father, beginning yesterday. This was a terribly abusive relationship--please keep this in mind, as I tell this. 6 weeks ago while the boys were with him, he kicked them out of the house--yes out of the house in the dark because he was drinking. They snuck back in and called my daughter and she arrived with the police and picked them up and made out a report--and no, unfortunately she did not press charges--abused woman--and of course him calling her and threatening to break into her house, kill her and take the boys, well need I say more?? And yes my husband and I begged her--even took her back to the police--not happening. Anyway, the result was this custody order. When the boys were told, it was just heartbreaking, they cried, threw up, refused to eat, refused to go to school, could not sleep and so on. Next day--to the school psychologist. She had enough evidence to suggest parental abuse, and called Child Protective Services. The boys were interviewed that evening, and the case worker told us that while he couldn't tell her to go against a judges order,if it were his kids, he would not force them to go. Next morning--Friday--to the Pediatrician. Again, she had enough to call CPS. So we -- my daughter and myself-- took them to their classes and sat with the Psychologist, the Principal, and the Officer assigned to the school. The town police dept is well aware of the father's background, and have always had problems with this family, so it was determined that a squad car would be there to back up the school officer, and all of them told us that they would absolutely protect the boys and absolutely would not force them to go. Great right ?? Not so. About an hour before school let out, the Nurse called and said that the boys were so upset, and crying that they just couldn't function, and could my daughter pick them up. So of course she calls her lawyer for advice. He told her (and I quote ) "I don't care if you have to tie them up and throw them in his car, but you cannot violate the judges order or you will be arrested and go to jail" She brought him up to date with what had gone on over the past few days, and his response was that everyone calls CPS, it's no big deal, you're hysterical, tell the boys to get over it, I get 5 calls a week like this--and I took over the phone call because she was trying to tell him that the boys were really terrified to go with their father, while she was crying, and he told me the same thing. "If you want your daughter to get arrested, then go ahead and ignore the judgement, and don't bother me with this nonsense" Well, I called the NYS police and they informed me that no police officer would ever force a child to go if they didn't want to. This was reinforced by the school officer. Needless to say, he ended up picking them up at my daughters house, and after some coaxing the little guy went, the older one, absolutely not, would not budge. She called the town police and they came over and talked to him and he said no, he did not want to go with his father, and the officer relayed the message. So this brings me to my questions. Was my daughter really supposed to force them to go as her lawyer said ( tie them up and such ), and do I have grounds to report this lawyer, and to whom ?? And yes--she is looking for a new lawyer. Thanxs
My daughter recently obtained her divorce, however they had shared custody of their 2 boys, ages 6 & 8, until this past Wednesday, when temporary custody was given to her, and every other w/e to the father, beginning yesterday. This was a terribly abusive relationship--please keep this in mind, as I tell this. 6 weeks ago while the boys were with him, he kicked them out of the house--yes out of the house in the dark because he was drinking. They snuck back in and called my daughter and she arrived with the police and picked them up and made out a report--and no, unfortunately she did not press charges--abused woman--and of course him calling her and threatening to break into her house, kill her and take the boys, well need I say more?? And yes my husband and I begged her--even took her back to the police--not happening. Anyway, the result was this custody order. When the boys were told, it was just heartbreaking, they cried, threw up, refused to eat, refused to go to school, could not sleep and so on. Next day--to the school psychologist. She had enough evidence to suggest parental abuse, and called Child Protective Services. The boys were interviewed that evening, and the case worker told us that while he couldn't tell her to go against a judges order,if it were his kids, he would not force them to go. Next morning--Friday--to the Pediatrician. Again, she had enough to call CPS. So we -- my daughter and myself-- took them to their classes and sat with the Psychologist, the Principal, and the Officer assigned to the school. The town police dept is well aware of the father's background, and have always had problems with this family, so it was determined that a squad car would be there to back up the school officer, and all of them told us that they would absolutely protect the boys and absolutely would not force them to go. Great right ?? Not so. About an hour before school let out, the Nurse called and said that the boys were so upset, and crying that they just couldn't function, and could my daughter pick them up. So of course she calls her lawyer for advice. He told her (and I quote ) "I don't care if you have to tie them up and throw them in his car, but you cannot violate the judges order or you will be arrested and go to jail" She brought him up to date with what had gone on over the past few days, and his response was that everyone calls CPS, it's no big deal, you're hysterical, tell the boys to get over it, I get 5 calls a week like this--and I took over the phone call because she was trying to tell him that the boys were really terrified to go with their father, while she was crying, and he told me the same thing. "If you want your daughter to get arrested, then go ahead and ignore the judgement, and don't bother me with this nonsense" Well, I called the NYS police and they informed me that no police officer would ever force a child to go if they didn't want to. This was reinforced by the school officer. Needless to say, he ended up picking them up at my daughters house, and after some coaxing the little guy went, the older one, absolutely not, would not budge. She called the town police and they came over and talked to him and he said no, he did not want to go with his father, and the officer relayed the message. So this brings me to my questions. Was my daughter really supposed to force them to go as her lawyer said ( tie them up and such ), and do I have grounds to report this lawyer, and to whom ?? And yes--she is looking for a new lawyer. Thanxs