Don't call him daddy

[curious123]

What is the name of your state? NY
I had previously read a post where the op stated that it could be worked into an agreement that a step parent cannot be called 'mom or dad' against the bio parent's wishes; is this true? My ex-wife has my youngest calling her bf 'dad' despite my requests that she not do so. I am in the process of amending custody, and would like to know if that stipulation could also be worded into the agreement.Thank you for any responses.

 

[MominMass]

What is the name of your state? NY
I had previously read a post where the op stated that it could be worked into an agreement that a step parent cannot be called 'mom or dad' against the bio parent's wishes; is this true? My ex-wife has my youngest calling her bf 'dad' despite my requests that she not do so. I am in the process of amending custody, and would like to know if that stipulation could also be worded into the agreement.Thank you for any responses.

How old is your youngest? Does he/she know that bf is not his/her Dad?

 

[curious123]

He's 6 and I hope to God he knows it...he does call me daddy, but it is a bit confusing to him, I know that much, and they're already convinced that his children are their siblings too; and not in the cute 'this is my step sister/brother' way, but in the my mommy gave birth to these kids way. Thx 4 the response

 

[MominMass]

He's 6 and I hope to God he knows it...he does call me daddy, but it is a bit confusing to him, I know that much, and they're already convinced that his children are their siblings too; and not in the cute 'this is my step sister/brother' way, but in the my mommy gave birth to these kids way. Thx 4 the response

I have a five year old son, and I don't believe he'd have any problem knowing who his real father and siblings are. He might, however, have a problem disappointing his mother if he doesn't call the b/f Dad if that's what he was told to do. I'd certainly run it by your attorney and ask to have it written in the agreement. Not sure how enforcable it will be, but I would try to have it in writing anyway.

 

[curious123]

thank you

I guess it's worth a try- I just don't want my children to go through what my ex-wife's other children have gone through...one of her daughter's called 3 men daddy...I hope for my children's sake that it ends here with this guy who is really very nice; they do however have a father-my wife isn't referred to as 'mom' and she has been in their lives a lot longer than he has- and given her history that may just be wishful thinking.

 

[BelizeBreeze]

What is the name of your state? NY
I had previously read a post where the op stated that it could be worked into an agreement that a step parent cannot be called 'mom or dad' against the bio parent's wishes; is this true? My ex-wife has my youngest calling her bf 'dad' despite my requests that she not do so. I am in the process of amending custody, and would like to know if that stipulation could also be worded into the agreement.Thank you for any responses.

Aside from the assinine FLORIDA response which has nothing whatsoever to do with the LEGAL aspects of your issue, such a clause in a custody order is invalid. There is no way the court can control what the 'child' calls anyone, much less a parent (be it legal or quasi).

You are wasting your time

 

[BL]

In my girlfriends case , the grandmother's Friend was claiming to be an Aunt to her Child .

I think the Court will address it in the proper way , If it confusing the Child , or IF the other Parent and BF are demanding the BF to be called DAD .

At any rate , My own children went through several BF's of my X with the DAD thing . They are Adults now and KNOW who their DAD is . Keep a stiff upper lip , remind the children YOU are their real DAD often , and love the dickens out of them , they'll know .

 

[MominMass]

Aside from the assinine FLORIDA response which has nothing whatsoever to do with the LEGAL aspects of your issue, such a clause in a custody order is invalid. There is no way the court can control what the 'child' calls anyone, much less a parent (be it legal or quasi).

You are wasting your time

I have seen sillier things written in custody agreements. Courts often put stuff like "neither parent shall speak disparagingly of the other in front of the children".
Try getting a contempt finding on that one. It certainly can't hurt you to ask your attorney to put the Dad clause in the agreement.

 

[BelizeBreeze]

I have seen sillier things written in custody agreements. Courts often put stuff like "neither parent shall speak disparagingly of the other in front of the children".
Try getting a contempt finding on that one. It certainly can't hurt you to ask your attorney to put the Dad clause in the agreement.

What has THAT passage got to do with a court ORDERING a CHILD not to call someone DADDY!

Poster, I would suggest you read all of the threads MoroninMass has replied to and then contact YOUR attorney for their suggestion. While you may add a clause in any contract regarding the parties actions, you may NOT control a third-party's actions. Especially one who is not a party to the original contract.

what you are proposing is not only invalid but unenforcable.

 

[MominMass]

What has THAT passage got to do with a court ORDERING a CHILD not to call someone DADDY!

Poster, I would suggest you read all of the threads MoroninMass has replied to and then contact YOUR attorney for their suggestion. While you may add a clause in any contract regarding the parties actions, you may NOT control a third-party's actions. Especially one who is not a party to the original contract.

what you are proposing is not only invalid but unenforcable.

God you are just pathetic. Poster, I would assume that you would want the court to order the mother to stop instructing your child to call b/f Daddy. I never said anything about the court ordering a third party to do anything.

 

[BelizeBreeze]

God you are just pathetic. Poster, I would assume that you would want the court to order the mother to stop instructing your child to call b/f Daddy. I never said anything about the court ordering a third party to do anything. .

Now tell this poster why you thought it necessary to DELETE the threads where YOU asked for help? Could it be you have no idea about law?

Now, tell this poster also why you think I don't give a damn about what FATHERs go through? Since you know everything and can give opinions based on fact.

Again, I'll be waiting.

 

[BelizeBreeze]

This has gone on long enough.

CURIOUS: If you want to know what the courts have said ( and not some idiot from Mass. who doesn't know how to SPELL LAW much less quote it ) then read Jablon v. Jablon, 579 So. 2d 902, 904(Fla. 2d DCA 1991), citing Stricklin v. Stricklin, 383 So. 2d 1183 (Fla. 5th DCA1980). A court will examine the testimony submitted in a custody modification todetermine if a “pseudo-parental” relationship is detrimental to a child. Jablon, 579So. 2d 904. See also Dobbins v. Dobbins, 584 So. 2d 1113 (Fla. 1st DCA 1991) and especially STAATS v. Staats.

I'm not going to do your attorney's work for him/her but when idiots without a clue come on this forum and give WRONG advice, that work I will do.

As I said before, such a clause has no legal effect and is invalid in and of itself.

 

[curious123]

ummm...

I was just asking a question

 

[graybeard1952]

Wierd ,ain't it?

 

[BelizeBreeze]

I was just asking a question

that's the problem with forum trolls who don't know of what they speak.

You have your answer. Anything else is posturing by idiots who don't know how to find a law library, much less be admitted to use it's resources.