What is the name of your state?Michigan
Ok this might get long but I don't know what to do and i need advice.
My mom had a severe stroke in Nov 2000. She needs 24 hour care. My father asked me if I would do it since he didn't want her in a nurseing home. I agreed and we set out a payment plan. He would pay me what he could afford upfront and the rest would be kept track of and when he sold one of there properties he would pay me what was owed plus interest. I was 21 at the time and just wanted to help my parents so I didn't exactly think things thru, also working for them made it so my daughter didn't need to be in daycare. at first my mom was living at my dads. For about 8months I was at my parents house from 4am till 8pm which left me no time at all to get anything done at my house or with my daughter. also my father was always complaining about his bills being high and how he didn't have any money. So it just made more sence to have my mom live at my house. It would save my dad money and it would save me time. So she came to live with me.(by the way I rent a house from my parents) My dad and I worked out another payment arangment since being paid hourly wouldn't be fair. I took a drastic pay cut but didn't really mind at the time. my dad had said he was selling the house this summer so i figured things would work out fine. well 2years later the house was still not sold. My daughters father was working full time and I ended up having to get a second job just so we could make ends meet. I was pregnant with our second child and soon I told my dad i just couldn't do it anymore. I was overwhelmed. and I felt like one of my sisters could help out a bit or at least someone from the family could. My dad basicly told me no. He said mom was staying at my house and if I didn't like it he would just stop paying me. I tried explaning to him that being pregnant I couldn't lift my mom anymore to get her on the toilet or in her chair. he didn't care and wouldn't listen. I didn't know what to do. so she stayed and we worked thru it. My dad came over more often to move my mom and my daughters father helped too. well it's now almost 2006 and nothing has changed. my mom lives here my dad comes over twice a day to have breakfast and dinner with her. My dad says every year that he is going to sell the house. I get less and less money every year. I started out making around 10 and hour i now make less that 5. I was trying to help my parents but now I am just feeling used and screwed over. My dad owes my over 50,000 and I feel like i will never see a penny of it. I had always planned on useing it to pay for college but it looks like that will never happen. My dad now tells my he can't sell the house till june of 2007 when he will be old enough to get social security. I don't see how that makes a difference. I catch him in lies about his financial situation all the time. My mom honestly needs to be in a nurseing home. Even though I try to to do my best to care for her I know sometimes I do it half assed because I am just so sick of it all. No one seems to get how it is and I just feel like a slave.
anyone know what I can do to get my mom in a nurseing home and get my money from my dad? By the way my parents are not poor by any means. my mom has a large trust fund and my dad makes at least 1000 a week.
thanks,
beth
Ok this might get long but I don't know what to do and i need advice.
My mom had a severe stroke in Nov 2000. She needs 24 hour care. My father asked me if I would do it since he didn't want her in a nurseing home. I agreed and we set out a payment plan. He would pay me what he could afford upfront and the rest would be kept track of and when he sold one of there properties he would pay me what was owed plus interest. I was 21 at the time and just wanted to help my parents so I didn't exactly think things thru, also working for them made it so my daughter didn't need to be in daycare. at first my mom was living at my dads. For about 8months I was at my parents house from 4am till 8pm which left me no time at all to get anything done at my house or with my daughter. also my father was always complaining about his bills being high and how he didn't have any money. So it just made more sence to have my mom live at my house. It would save my dad money and it would save me time. So she came to live with me.(by the way I rent a house from my parents) My dad and I worked out another payment arangment since being paid hourly wouldn't be fair. I took a drastic pay cut but didn't really mind at the time. my dad had said he was selling the house this summer so i figured things would work out fine. well 2years later the house was still not sold. My daughters father was working full time and I ended up having to get a second job just so we could make ends meet. I was pregnant with our second child and soon I told my dad i just couldn't do it anymore. I was overwhelmed. and I felt like one of my sisters could help out a bit or at least someone from the family could. My dad basicly told me no. He said mom was staying at my house and if I didn't like it he would just stop paying me. I tried explaning to him that being pregnant I couldn't lift my mom anymore to get her on the toilet or in her chair. he didn't care and wouldn't listen. I didn't know what to do. so she stayed and we worked thru it. My dad came over more often to move my mom and my daughters father helped too. well it's now almost 2006 and nothing has changed. my mom lives here my dad comes over twice a day to have breakfast and dinner with her. My dad says every year that he is going to sell the house. I get less and less money every year. I started out making around 10 and hour i now make less that 5. I was trying to help my parents but now I am just feeling used and screwed over. My dad owes my over 50,000 and I feel like i will never see a penny of it. I had always planned on useing it to pay for college but it looks like that will never happen. My dad now tells my he can't sell the house till june of 2007 when he will be old enough to get social security. I don't see how that makes a difference. I catch him in lies about his financial situation all the time. My mom honestly needs to be in a nurseing home. Even though I try to to do my best to care for her I know sometimes I do it half assed because I am just so sick of it all. No one seems to get how it is and I just feel like a slave.
anyone know what I can do to get my mom in a nurseing home and get my money from my dad? By the way my parents are not poor by any means. my mom has a large trust fund and my dad makes at least 1000 a week.
thanks,
beth