Don't Understand

[dabora7498]

What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state?
New York
I recently went to court for a increase in child support.I have a court order for me to pay my child support for my son who lives with his dad.He recieves his money every week. He want's and increase and I have know problem with it.We have been going to court for a few months now in regards to this.The judge gave me time to find a job but I have'nt had any luck due to the hours they have need help(but I can't afford a daycare to watch my 7 yr old daughter)so my ex husband wants to take this to trial so he can get an increase.I don't know what to do but I know I can't afford any of this.It's getting to the point that I'm willing to sign over my parental rights

Please Help

 

[BL]

How are you supporting yourself now ?

Check with Social Service Agency , they may be able help in all areas .

If you go on assistance , you will be required to " Work for benefits " . The Court will take that into account .

They are helpful in childcare also .

You may want to work with the Labor Dept . too.

The Judge wants you doing something , then will decide the CS issue based on what you are doing .

However , IF you have worked in a profession that made quit a bit , the Judge may expect you to find near the same income Job .

Get to the Temporary Assistance Office to Start .

 

[nextwife]

Isn't your seven year old in SCHOOL full-time? I have one that just turned 8 and she is in third grade, and I work full time. You should maybe only need child care before and/or after school. And many school districts have a variety of modestly priced/ after school supervised classes and activities for kids. When mine was seven last year, she attended a mix of Chess Class, Mad Science, Brownie Scouts and Kidz Art classes at her school after school hours, and I'd pick her at at five.

 

[dabora7498]

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Isn't your seven year old in SCHOOL full-time? I have one that just turned 8 and she is in third grade, and I work full time. You should maybe only need child care before and/or after school. And many school districts have a variety of modestly priced/ after school supervised classes and activities for kids. When mine was seven last year, she attended a mix of Chess Class, Mad Science, Brownie Scouts and Kidz Art classes at her school after school hours, and I'd pick her at at five.[/QUOTE
My 7yo is in school all day but most of the hours for the jobs I applied were 3-11pm or 4-12am.I currently do have a job as a school bus driver which is perfect cause I'm home to get her off the school bus.I have a 17yo son but I don't feel comfortable leaving her alone with him for all that time(He is classified as learning disabled)because if he a teenager who is a follower not a leader.

 

[dabora7498]

Reply to Don't Understand

Isn't your seven year old in SCHOOL full-time? I have one that just turned 8 and she is in third grade, and I work full time. You should maybe only need child care before and/or after school. And many school districts have a variety of modestly priced/ after school supervised classes and activities for kids. When mine was seven last year, she attended a mix of Chess Class, Mad Science, Brownie Scouts and Kidz Art classes at her school after school hours, and I'd pick her at at five.[/QUOTE
My 7yo is in school all day but most of the hours for the jobs I applied were 3-11pm or 4-12am.I currently do have a job as a school bus driver which is perfect cause I'm home to get her off the school bus.I have a 17yo son but I don't feel comfortable leaving her alone with him for all that time(He is classified as learning disabled)because he is a teenager who is a follower not a leader.

 

[nextwife]

most of the hours for the jobs I applied were 3-11pm or 4-12am.

Then why not try applying for a job that has daytime 8:30-5 or 9-5 hours? There are a great many jobs that have regular workday hours. When I worked in retail, some women with young kids worked 10-4, or 10-3, and helped "cover" lunches and breaks for the full-time people. They also then had the option of working weekends (which you could do on his weekends) Sundays were time and a half, even for part time people. My office has many who never work past 5 pm. And the same for most of my customer's offices.

 

[Gracie3787]

What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state?
New York
I recently went to court for a increase in child support.I have a court order for me to pay my child support for my son who lives with his dad.He recieves his money every week. He want's and increase and I have know problem with it.We have been going to court for a few months now in regards to this.The judge gave me time to find a job but I have'nt had any luck due to the hours they have need help(but I can't afford a daycare to watch my 7 yr old daughter)so my ex husband wants to take this to trial so he can get an increase.I don't know what to do but I know I can't afford any of this.It's getting to the point that I'm willing to sign over my parental rights

Please Help

Take the advice of the other posters- find a job during your 7 yr old's school hours. Even if it is not a job that you would really want to do- you have 2 children and you are legally responsible for supporting BOTH of those children, not just your 7 yr. old.

You are very very lucky, so far you have been able to pay only $20.00 a week CS- https://forum.freeadvice.com/showthread.php?t=261143 AND a Judge is being kind enough to allow you time to find a job before increasing the CS. Did you know that legally the Judge did NOT have to be so nice? He/she could have ordered the increase immediately.

You may want to sign over your parental rights, but the reality is, that unless your ex has a wife who wishes to adopt, you will not be able to get out of paying a decent amount of CS by signing your child away.

This is sincere advice- for your own sake, face the reality that you have to pay CS, stop making lame excuses for not getting a job, and just go get a job. You'll find that your life will be alot less stressful in the long run. Good luck in your job hunt.
Gracie