emancipation of a minor

[kamisanders]

What is the name of your state?i live in des moines iowa. i was just recently kicked out of my parents house. the last thing i heard was that emancipation of a minor in iowa was illegalized. i lost my job because i needed to take a little less than a week off for all of this. i am living currently with one of my really good friends, and even now am still looking for a decent job. i cannot get any help from the state or anything for that matter right now because i am not 18 yet. it would seem to make sense to wait until i am 18 but since that will not happen until next April i seem to have a small problem. i am at loss for what to do and need alot of advise right now. i lost my family my job and my best friend all in one day. now i am losing all my hope as well as it is the only thing that i have to go on right now i can't afford to lose that too.

 

[Wolflmg]

Why'd your parents kick you out?

Have you gone to the police station, yet? Until your 18 your parents are still responisible for you.

Are there any other relatives you can get in contact with, grandparents, aunts or uncles? Cousins? Siblings?

 

[kamisanders]

Why'd your parents kick you out?

we got into a big fight because they owed me almost $300 and my dad already screwed me out of $1400 and i wasn't about to let her do the same so i confronted her on it and we both just let loose after that

Have you gone to the police station, yet? Until your 18 your parents are still responisible for you.

afterwards she reported me as a runaway, they told her that there was nothing i could do about it because i am not all that far from 18

Are there any other relatives you can get in contact with, grandparents, aunts or uncles? Cousins? Siblings?

i tried that one too but it just got way too in depth. everyone was fighting because they took it as the rest of the family betrayed my parents. so i walked out on that

 

[Wolflmg]

What was the fight about?
Until your 18 your parents are responsible for you, have you called the police or CPS, or got in touch with a family consouler or a school cosoulder.

 

[kilrb]

i tried that one too but it just got way too in depth. everyone was fighting because they took it as the rest of the family betrayed my parents. so i walked out on that

You walked out or they kicked you out?

 

[kamisanders]

they originally told me to get out and that they didn't want me there and that it was pointless to try and convince me otherwise so there was no point nor reason to have me there. they kicked me out after i told them i was tired of all of it. then... as i was walking out my mom told me that i would have the police department called on me if i left. by then it was too late to walk back in and try and talk rationally. they told everyone they kicked me out and then turned around and said i ran away

 

[kamisanders]

the fight was about how much money she owed me. she owed me 300 and my dad still owes me 1400 and i think that because i hadn't pressed the issue when i said something they flipped because they just thought i would let it go. i haven't been able to talk to anyone really because of the simple fact as to school is out and there aren't really any counseling areas open for little or no money.

 

[Wolflmg]

the fight was about how much money she owed me. she owed me 300 and my dad still owes me 1400 and i think that because i hadn't pressed the issue when i said something they flipped because they just thought i would let it go. i haven't been able to talk to anyone really because of the simple fact as to school is out and there aren't really any counseling areas open for little or no money.

Why do your parents owe you so much money? That seems a bit high 1700 dollars for parents to owe their teenager..

 

[kamisanders]

it was because of my vehicle. my dad wouldn't give it to me because i moved out and my mom owed me that for a job that i did and i didn't open my mouth really until i desperately needed the money and she told me she wasn't going to give it to me cause of all that she has done for me in the past.

 

[Wolflmg]

it was because of my vehicle. my dad wouldn't give it to me because i moved out and my mom owed me that for a job that i did and i didn't open my mouth really until i desperately needed the money and she told me she wasn't going to give it to me cause of all that she has done for me in the past.

Did you pay for the vehicle with your own money and also pay for the insurance for it?

And I tend to have to agree with your mother about that all she has done for you in the past. I'm sure you got your dues back to you from things she has bought for your, food, clothes, gas money and so on.

 

[kamisanders]

in all seriousness my mom was never there. i moved in with my dad at quite an early age when i found out who my father was. things have never been great between my mom and i but she wasn't ever there emotionally or otherwise. i raised my little brothers as much as i could for her and when i left she had to quit drinking so much and drugs. which was what i wanted so i was happy to have left. my car i brought from my biological father. i paid for it in full and i paid insurance by my own. everything having anything to do with that car was bought and paid for by me and me alone. i never asked them for help at all. i never felt the need to because i busted my butt to make something of myself from the git go and i wasn't going to allow anyone to take care of me but me. i know i am not the worlds greatest kid but my parents have tossed me about my whole life and what makes it so hard to deal with is you can't walk out on family. in a sense i did but i am trying as hard as i can to make a little more of a better situation. i need my mom more than ever now and i know she needs me too because she has told me recently i just got tired of being stepped on and felt i couldn't do it right wrong or indifferent. there are no excuses or logical reasoning for what i did but i did. my mom is now actually here for me for a chance because of a recent issue i had come up within the past week. my serious boyfriend and i had a big argument because i caught him in one of the biggest lies i have ever caught anyone in. during the duration of one week that we broke up, he decided that he would go back to his ex and try and make it work for his little girl, i understood and told him to do so with the understanding. that little girl means everything to anyone she comes across all i want is the best for her and him as well. so i let go. he came back and we started to work things through. a month and a half go by and he swears on my life nothing happened as well as his daughters. nothing happened kami i promise. i give you my word and swear on your life my daughters life and our relationship. well come to find out a month and a half later... they made out... no biggie but still a lie... i found out from his sister through 3-way calling.. he slept with her but didn't want to destroy me... he still tells me he loves me and he just didn't want to explain all of this to them... but he lied to me so many times over the same issue... you think ... not a big deal right.... you told him to.... his ex has chlamydia and herpes that we know of... i have chlamydia a virus and an infection... the big stuff will take at least one more week to get back. he cried bawled grabbed on to my leg like a little kid who doesn't want you to leave for anything... and begged me to stay. i love him and i honestly wish i could tell 100% for sure but i can't. when i left mom called him .. the first person she called... she loves him with all of her heart and still wants me with him no matter what... i don't know if i can again. this may have only been one lie but it is a big lie and will affect my whole life regardless of the outcome of herpes and hiv aids and all of that fun stuff. now i am faced with letting the one person that i have had by me through thick and thin go. he has always been there but how can i be. my mom feels as tho it is her fault because she pushed me to be with him and stay with him. it isn't her fault but i may have had the choice of sleeping with him but i dind't have the knowledge of this. this is a very big thing and he didn't want to lose me so he didn't tell me... that is no reason... i am hoping that i get alot from this on replies cause i don't know what to do and i can't handle it..

 

[Rushia]

Kami, please enable your pm so that I can talk to you.

 

[kamisanders]

how do i enable my pm???

 

[Rushia]

Up at the top it says user cp, click on that and then go to edit options, find the pm selection and enable it.

 

[Rushia]

Ok, just sent you a pm. Just go to the private messages in the upper right and click on it. I would IM with you, but my computer broke down last month and I haven't got it all set back up yet.