emancipation of a minor

[sefnfot]

you and your family needs some family counceling. locate the areas Child Family Services. they may put you up until you turn 18 in the meantime. but dont go in and automatically say that you are homeless. because i hear of stories of child services not having space and only being able to place you in a detention center.

hope this helps

 

[kamisanders]

thank you for the advice. all i can get is extremely helpful. i do think that we need to go into counceling but i don't think that i can live in a detention center or be placed in foster care. i have already been in each once and i couldn't really see me going back there anytime soon. in the meantime i am living with one of my really good friends and that is good enough for me right now. i have a sense of pride for making it this far and not having mommy and daddy there for comfort and support although i really wish i did and do. more so than ever. thank you once again for your advice it was helpful to say the least

 

[Happy Trails]

How old are you and have you finished HS?

 

[kamisanders]

i am 17 years old and i am finishing my last 2 months

 

[Happy Trails]

i am 17 years old and i am finishing my last 2 months

How long ago did they kick you out?

Have you spoken with your school counselor?

 

[kamisanders]

about a month and a half i haven't talked to any councelors because school is not in session and all of the summer school classes are over with.

 

[Happy Trails]

about a month and a half i haven't talked to any councelors because school is not in session and all of the summer school classes are over with.

Maybe your family has had enough of a cooling down time and mom will be glad to have you move back in.

I would call or write her a letter, whichever you feel the most comfortable with, telling her how you feel.

I would suggest a letter because it allows you to think through what you want to tell her. That way she can read it and have time to think. You could leave her the number to where you are staying and hopefully she will call.

 

[kamisanders]

my mom and i have talked a little bit and we both agreed that it isn't a good idea for me to live there... even when all of this fun stuff wasn't going on... it just didn't work. my mom has my cell number and she calls when she can as well as i but thank you

 

[kamisanders]

well my ex and i worked it all out and as it turns.. i don't have anything else. which is a relief off my shoulders to some extent. but now his ex--- but still current wife... is going on a rampage and threatening to take his child away from him and all of this that and the other claiming that he is unfit to be a parent... hte only way anything is going to get anywhere remotely close to better is if i leave him. he doesn't want me to and he is going to talk to his lawyer in the a.m. to see if dating a 17 year old and being 23 almost 24 is going to be kicking his butt when he goes to court. i don't know what to do i love him and i don't want to give up but when are we going to decide that there has been far too much going on and it's better is we end it now so it is at least on our terms,,,, and he won't accept that. i am trying as hard as i can to do this but it isn't working ... it is killing me to know that i am the reason that the ex is threatening to take her away from him. and that scares the hell out of me and i know how much he loves his little girl and i am afraid that by the time we give up it will be too late and his daughter will already be gone... what should i do. i may never get the chance to be this happy ever again... but i mean .... at the risk of losing his daughter i wouldn't be able to live with. he isn't ready to give up and give in to his ex but i mean what other choice do i have. what other choice do we have. i mean if his lawyer says that he needs to get rid of me... he won't then what do i do. i am at lost for words on how this is making me feel and i know it is killing him far more.... when do i know to walk away before it is too late... the only thing that she has on him is the fact that he is dating a 17 year old ... is that enough and what do you think i should do...

 

[stealth2]

Sweetheart - you really need to end things with this guy and find someone (a) closer to your own age and (b) without the baggage. From what you're posting - he is still married. Which means he's committing adultery, with a 17yo child. It doesn't matter if they're over (obviously, they're not THAT over if he managed to pass her STDs to you - unless he got them elsewhere and gave them to BOTH of you), blah blah blah. He's cheating on her. He cheated on you. What on earth makes you think that he won't cheat again? You can do so much better than this for yourself. If he was that committed to you, he'd be showing it by acting like a man does. He's not doing that. Cut him loose, or you're going to be in for a world of heartache in the future.

 

[Happy Trails]

I totally agree with Stealth, you need to lose this immature loser. He is a player and is only going to cause you heartache. Lose him and let the healing process begin; you deserve a better future then what this guy can offer.

 

[kamisanders]

well just so the record is clear and known... i didn't have anything else.. and he never cheated on me at all. we had split up and that's when it happened. im not saying it was right nor jsutified by any means at all. we had this whole ordeal with my mom last night and we got a lot settled but i am still clueless about all of this. on the whole adultry thing...it is legal in iowa but at the same time i don't think it is going to look good on a judge so that is making me a little iffy as well... i know he's not a god and i know that he's not the greatest but i made the mistake of falling for him and his little girl... i am lost hurt and can't find the strength to leave...thanks for the advice please keep them coming.

 

[Happy Trails]

well just so the record is clear and known... i didn't have anything else.. and he never cheated on me at all. we had split up and that's when it happened. im not saying it was right nor jsutified by any means at all. we had this whole ordeal with my mom last night and we got a lot settled but i am still clueless about all of this. on the whole adultry thing...it is legal in iowa but at the same time i don't think it is going to look good on a judge so that is making me a little iffy as well... i know he's not a god and i know that he's not the greatest but i made the mistake of falling for him and his little girl... i am lost hurt and can't find the strength to leave...thanks for the advice please keep them coming.

Yeah, it won't look good to the Judge. You're only 17 and you recognize that. You need to find the strength to do what is right for you.

Finish school and continue your education, as I said before you deserve a better life for yourself then what this scenario has to offer.

 

[kamisanders]

i honestly believe that what is best for me is to be with him, not to mention the fact that he is making me go back to school in the fall. i could've went back to the whole drug issue... but he kept me away from it. i sit alone for at least 8 hours a day and wish i was with him... i am out with other friends and i wish i was with him. i dated this guy for a year and a half and truly cared about him.. this touches so much more than that. i honestly do feel that we love eachother and that we can make it... we can't make it if i keeprunning and i need all the legal advice i can get a hold of.i honestly feel that there is something with great potential here... i have tried to leave... and he has begged me to stay. this is a guy that doesn't open up and doesn't show his feelings at all to anyone... and he has to me and still continues to do so. he's the best thing that i have in my life and i don't know why i am trying so hard to push him away... maybe because i do so well at it and do it so often. i have my whole life that was what i was taught to do when things got too good or too complicated. i also feel as though i owe him at least this if nothing else...he has always been here for me since day 1 and i feel that if i leave now...i am doing far more than abandoning him and his little girl. if anyone has any legal advice please pm it to me or put it on here... thank you

 

[Rushia]

Did your bf get in to see a lawyer and if so what did the lawyer say?