Emancipation?

[gammyman1]

When did you start your love affair with this child?

We first engaged in activity in December of 2011.

 

[Zigner]

We first engaged in activity in December of 2011.

That wasn't what I asked...

 

[gammyman1]

And, another question - how do you know this child? How did you meet?

We met in school. I was a senior and she was a sophomore. We hung out a few times,went to a few games together, talked on the phone, nothing too serious. It wasn't until about January of my senior year (2011) that we actually started seriously dating.

 

[gammyman1]

That wasn't what I asked...

Then can you clarify what you meant? We have kissed. But we didn't engage in sexual activity until December of 2011.

 

[anearthw]

Emancipation is out. She has demonstrated her immaturity by getting pregnant at 16 while living in her mother's home without a job.

Has anyone called CPS for these various incidents of abuse?

If you are concerned about the safety of your child, then she can allow you to have physical custody of the baby when it is born. You are unmarried and there are additional steps that must be taken in that regard.

Otherwise, the baby will be living with her & grandmother. If you don't like that, then you should not have impregnated a teenager. That's not a judgement, it is simple facts.

There are of course, other options for her to take (abortion) and both of you to choose (adoption).

 

[dave33]

My girlfriend and I just found out that she is pregnant. The problem is, she is 16, and therefore considered a minor. Her mother is abusive physically, emotionally and verbally. She brought up the idea of emancipation I was initially opposed to the idea, seeing as she isn't working, but it's the only thing that would save her from the abuse and it is also in the best interest of the baby. I am currently in school, working 3 jobs, and have a place of my home that I am more than willing to open up to her, but the circumstances are so twisted, that we aren't sure if the emancipation will go through. Of course the abuse isn't noticed by others, so it will be difficult to get 3 affidavits signed supporting the emancipation. What can we do?What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?

Getting someone out of an abusive situation is the 1st mandatory action that must be taken in order to ever resolve the situation. So, if it's legal, than good. As far as the emancipation goes...It generally does not look good.

It sounds like her family might not protest if she moved out? Do you think they would invol;ve the authorities? Maybe you could do this quietly without the drama.

 

[Zigner]

It sounds like her family might not protest if she moved out? Do you think they would invol;ve the authorities? Maybe you could do this quietly without the drama.

What are you smoking? What makes you think the family might not protest? You mean, the family who has to deal with their 16 year old child who got knocked up by the 19 year old man <spit>?

 

[Proserpina]

I gave them up permanently.

In this thread? I really wish that I hadn't.

 

[dave33]

What are you smoking? What makes you think the family might not protest? You mean, the family who has to deal with their 16 year old child who got knocked up by the 19 year old man <spit>?

I meant, if they are abusive than maybe they don't care.

 

[Zigner]

I meant, if they are abusive than maybe they don't care.

Perhaps the "abuse" (which I am not convinced is happening) is a parent trying to reign in her out-of-control daughter.

 

[gammyman1]

Perhaps the "abuse" (which I am not convinced is happening) is a parent trying to reign in her out-of-control daughter.

Zigner... Look, I am not here for your approval or to make you believe me. If you don't that's your right. I have spilled all of the facts of my situation. I honestly don't need your negativity whilst in my search for an answer to this. I'm saying all of this to say this, your convincing is not my purpose in life or in this thread. I would appreciate it if you didn't reply. Thank you.

 

[Alex1176]

My girlfriend and I just found out that she is pregnant. The problem is, she is 16, and therefore considered a minor. Her mother is abusive physically, emotionally and verbally. She brought up the idea of emancipation I was initially opposed to the idea, seeing as she isn't working, but it's the only thing that would save her from the abuse and it is also in the best interest of the baby. I am currently in school, working 3 jobs, and have a place of my home that I am more than willing to open up to her, but the circumstances are so twisted, that we aren't sure if the emancipation will go through. Of course the abuse isn't noticed by others, so it will be difficult to get 3 affidavits signed supporting the emancipation. What can we do?What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?

As it was said by all the experts, emancipation is out of the question. The best option for you is to talk to her parents and ask them to agree that you will get married.
This will be the best thing legally and morally, IMHO.

 

[cbg]

Until she is 18, and not one minute earlier, she is under the care and control of her parents. Until she is 18, and not one minute earlier, she lives where her parents say she lives.

The ONLY thing that is going to remove her from her parents' house without their express and explicit permission is if the state removes her.

That means calling CPS or the cops each and every time she is abused. If abuse it actually is.

When you post on the public internet, you do not get to pick and choose who answers you.

 

[ecmst12]

And she needs to give SERIOUS, CAREFUL thought as to whether she really wants to HAVE this baby, and/or whether she wants to KEEP it. Abortion and adoption are the best choices for this child to be able to have a normal life like a normal teenager. Abortion is a choice that she and she alone gets to make, adoption would have to be agreed on by both of you.

The police investigated and found no abuse. That means she will be staying at mom's house for the rest of her childhood. That means that the baby will either be living with her (likely) and her mom, or with you somewhere else, if a court grants you custody (which will likely be only if she agrees to it). Whichever parent does not have primary custody will have visitation on whatever schedule you and the court decide on. Her mother has complete control over whether she is even allowed to speak to you, and you will most definitely NOT be "raising the baby together" as in living together just you and her and the child, for at least 2 more years.

That is the reality. Welcome to it.

 

[dave33]

Perhaps the "abuse" (which I am not convinced is happening) is a parent trying to reign in her out-of-control daughter.

You could be absolutely correct. Maybe the o.p. is being 100% truthful.

To speculate about the honesty is an impossible situation. I can only go by what I am told, if it's not true, not my problem.