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establishing paternity and back child support

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jef001

Junior Member
I do want to be dad, but I recently lost my job. I am not a dead beat or low life. I was a VP in a construction firm that went under and have been working for myself making ends meet. My wife is a teacher and we have 2 small children. We are in the process of trying to save our house and then this bomb gets dropped on us. I knew this day would come, but I didn't think that it would happen at this "bad"time. I don't have the financial means to pay for a lawyer or pursue a paternity test. It is just a catch 22. I want to do what is right, I just don't think that I can.
 


nextwife

Senior Member
For 15 years this man has been dad. It's ridiculous to show up three years before the child reaches the age of majority and even consider trying to overturn paternity of the man who has been supporting this child from the beginning.
 

Proserpina

Senior Member
For 15 years this man has been dad. It's ridiculous to show up three years before the child reaches the age of majority and even consider trying to overturn paternity of the man who has been supporting this child from the beginning.
Agreed, on the whole, but it was Mom who initiated contact (and I have to wonder why). And if this was an adoption that OP had no chance to object to he still may have the legal right to challenge the entire thing.

But I'll be honest - the child's welfare has not been mentioned much at all; the impression I'm getting is that OP certainly can't afford to pay child support for this young lady but would be ok with contact.

I hope I'm wrong.
 

Proserpina

Senior Member
Darn it, never mind - I just re-read the OP's first post.

This isn't about what's best for the child, it's about what's best for OP's finances and "protecting" his small children.

:mad:
 

Ohiogal

Queen Bee
Agreed, on the whole, but it was Mom who initiated contact (and I have to wonder why). And if this was an adoption that OP had no chance to object to he still may have the legal right to challenge the entire thing.

But I'll be honest - the child's welfare has not been mentioned much at all; the impression I'm getting is that OP certainly can't afford to pay child support for this young lady but would be ok with contact.

I hope I'm wrong.
If this was an adoption it was perfected by John Doe posting and that doesn't mean it can be overturned.
 

Proserpina

Senior Member
If this was an adoption it was perfected by John Doe posting and that doesn't mean it can be overturned.
It absolutely could've been, yep, and I wasn't sure what the heck was going on with OP - then again it'd also help if OP would actually clarify some things....

..I'm so done with pulling teeth tonight! :)
 

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