I do want to be dad, but I recently lost my job. I am not a dead beat or low life. I was a VP in a construction firm that went under and have been working for myself making ends meet. My wife is a teacher and we have 2 small children. We are in the process of trying to save our house and then this bomb gets dropped on us. I knew this day would come, but I didn't think that it would happen at this "bad"time. I don't have the financial means to pay for a lawyer or pursue a paternity test. It is just a catch 22. I want to do what is right, I just don't think that I can.