estranged husbands Pedifile bro in law

[emilydlovell]

What is the name of your state? washington
my soon to be ex husbands brother in law is a registered sex offender. He was convicted and sentenced for 3rd degree rape of a child. I was lied to about the details of his arrest and incarceration when my husband and i were still together. I dont want my 14 month old around this man, but him and his family dont seem to understand why. what can i do to insure that my "husband" doesnt subject our daughter to this man. restraining orders? legal documents?? I know that even though I tell my ex I dont want her around him, and I tell his family this as well, they will lie to me if the situation were to arise...what do I do?!?!

 

[ceara19]

What is the name of your state? washington
my soon to be ex husbands brother in law is a registered sex offender. He was convicted and sentenced for 3rd degree rape of a child. I was lied to about the details of his arrest and incarceration when my husband and i were still together. I dont want my 14 month old around this man, but him and his family dont seem to understand why. what can i do to insure that my "husband" doesnt subject our daughter to this man. restraining orders? legal documents?? I know that even though I tell my ex I dont want her around him, and I tell his family this as well, they will lie to me if the situation were to arise...what do I do?!?!

You can't take out a restraining order on a person that hasn't caused any harm to you or the child. Plus, you probably won't be able to get a court order to keep the uncle away all together. You can request putting a clause in the divorce/custody order that would forbid dad from being allowed to leave the child ALONE with him though.

 

[Gracie3787]

What is the name of your state? washington
my soon to be ex husbands brother in law is a registered sex offender. He was convicted and sentenced for 3rd degree rape of a child. I was lied to about the details of his arrest and incarceration when my husband and i were still together. I dont want my 14 month old around this man, but him and his family dont seem to understand why. what can i do to insure that my "husband" doesnt subject our daughter to this man. restraining orders? legal documents?? I know that even though I tell my ex I dont want her around him, and I tell his family this as well, they will lie to me if the situation were to arise...what do I do?!?!

In addition to ceara's ideas, you can also check to see if the BIL is restricted from being near minors. In most states now, convicted sex offenders must not be around children. A good place to start to find out is check to see if your state has a website for sex offenders. If you know the county he was arrested in, you might be able to get info from his criminal file, but you'll have to do that in person at the courthouse.

 

[emilydlovell]

In addition to ceara's ideas, you can also check to see if the BIL is restricted from being near minors. In most states now, convicted sex offenders must not be around children. A good place to start to find out is check to see if your state has a website for sex offenders. If you know the county he was arrested in, you might be able to get info from his criminal file, but you'll have to do that in person at the courthouse.

Thank you. I appreciate the ACTUAL advice given, as opposed to being attacked for my problems Ive tried to find him online, but am thinking hes a level 1, and they are not listed. I called the sheriff, and ended up in touch with his parol officer...as a FAMILY member and "citizen" am I allowed to know what his crime was exactly? How limited will those files be?

 

[ceara19]

Thank you. I appreciate the ACTUAL advice given, as opposed to being attacked for my problems Ive tried to find him online, but am thinking hes a level 1, and they are not listed. I called the sheriff, and ended up in touch with his parol officer...as a FAMILY member and "citizen" am I allowed to know what his crime was exactly? How limited will those files be?

Try this site:
http://www.familywatchdog.us/
Search by NAME. If he is required to register, it will show up. His current residential information will only be available if he is complying with the law. It doesn't matter what his risk level is, if he is required to register, you can click on the "convictions" tab and there should be details of the crime that turned him into a registered sex offender.

 

[Gracie3787]

Try this site:
http://www.familywatchdog.us/
Search by NAME. If he is required to register, it will show up. His current residential information will only be available if he is complying with the law. It doesn't matter what his risk level is, if he is required to register, you can click on the "convictions" tab and there should be details of the crime that turned him into a registered sex offender.

Thanks, I didn't know that they had set up the site yet or not. It wasn't available last time I checked. Thanks.
Gracie

 

[ceara19]

Thanks, I didn't know that they had set up the site yet or not. It wasn't available last time I checked. Thanks.
Gracie

I get email alerts if a sex offender moves into my neighborhood. I'm one of those people that will go around the neighborhood posting flyers with the offender's picture, address, place of employment, etc. The city has already gotten into trouble with the state for not properly notifying the public when a sex offender moves into the area.

 

[GrowUp!]

I get email alerts if a sex offender moves into my neighborhood. I'm one of those people that will go around the neighborhood posting flyers with the offender's picture, address, place of employment, etc. The city has already gotten into trouble with the state for not properly notifying the public when a sex offender moves into the area.

Depending on the "level", not every single sex offender moving into your neighborhood warrants notification. I am assuming you are not doing this for EVERY SINGLE ONE that moves in, especially if you do not need to be notified.

 

[ceara19]

Depending on the "level", not every single sex offender moving into your neighborhood warrants notification. I am assuming you are not doing this for EVERY SINGLE ONE that moves in, especially if you do not need to be notified.

I don't do it for EVERY sex offender. But I don't base it on their risk level either. Texas has a really screwed up way of determining the risk. If it's a 20 year old that was having consensual sex with a 16 year old, I don't really think of that as a high risk. But if the crime is against a child younger then 12, as far as I'm concerned, the circumstances surrounding the incident are irrelevant.

Once the story came out about my county not properly notifying neighborhoods when a sex offender moved in, I checked the state website and found out that there were 16 registered sex offenders whose victims were under 12 within a 10 mile radius of where we were living at the time. None of my neighbors were aware of this either, so a few of us chipped in a few dollars each to post the notices ourselves. Now I get email notification directly from the state. If it shames some child molester into moving out of my neighborhood, all the better. If they choose to stay, at least the parents know to keep a closer eye on what's going on in their neighborhood.

 

[acmb05]

Try this site:
http://www.familywatchdog.us/
Search by NAME. If he is required to register, it will show up. His current residential information will only be available if he is complying with the law. It doesn't matter what his risk level is, if he is required to register, you can click on the "convictions" tab and there should be details of the crime that turned him into a registered sex offender.

The problem with most of these sites and with the system itself is. They only have the manpower to do checks every three months and for the most part rely on the offender to come in and "check in" at that point. If they do not show up during that month then someone is sent to see why they did not show up.

So with the way it works now a sex offender could theoretically live in your neighborhood for almost 4 months before you would know about it. Now there are high level offenders that are required to check in monthly but for the most part they are not. Take a look at your local sex offender website and see when the last time a lot of them were verified. Then go to your local Sherrifs office and ask them. Most police stations and Sherriff offices have an officer in charge of sex offender databases, ask to speak with them and ask questions.

My county has 32 sex offenders on thier web site but when I talked to the city police lady who was in charge of it she notified me that there were over 60 registered offenders just in the city limits and that they are only required to check in every 3 months.

 

[ceara19]

The problem with most of these sites and with the system itself is. They only have the manpower to do checks every three months and for the most part rely on the offender to come in and "check in" at that point. If they do not show up during that month then someone is sent to see why they did not show up.

So with the way it works now a sex offender could theoretically live in your neighborhood for almost 4 months before you would know about it. Now there are high level offenders that are required to check in monthly but for the most part they are not. Take a look at your local sex offender website and see when the last time a lot of them were verified. Then go to your local Sherrifs office and ask them. Most police stations and Sherriff offices have an officer in charge of sex offender databases, ask to speak with them and ask questions.

My county has 32 sex offenders on thier web site but when I talked to the city police lady who was in charge of it she notified me that there were over 60 registered offenders just in the city limits and that they are only required to check in every 3 months.

My county has been in violation of the notification laws for YEARS. They were accepting funds from the federal government that was meant to cover the costs of neighborhood notifications and putting it into the general fund without EVER properly notifying the public.

It wasn't and isn't a situation where the paperwork just hadn't caught up with the offender. The county is still not doing proper notifications. Only now they actually have an excuse. They lost the federal funding for at least the next 3 years.

 

[saddadinpa]

thank you

I don't do it for EVERY sex offender. But I don't base it on their risk level either. Texas has a really screwed up way of determining the risk. If it's a 20 year old that was having consensual sex with a 16 year old, I don't really think of that as a high risk. But if the crime is against a child younger then 12, as far as I'm concerned, the circumstances surrounding the incident are irrelevant.

Once the story came out about my county not properly notifying neighborhoods when a sex offender moved in, I checked the state website and found out that there were 16 registered sex offenders whose victims were under 12 within a 10 mile radius of where we were living at the time. None of my neighbors were aware of this either, so a few of us chipped in a few dollars each to post the notices ourselves. Now I get email notification directly from the state. If it shames some child molester into moving out of my neighborhood, all the better. If they choose to stay, at least the parents know to keep a closer eye on what's going on in their neighborhood.

I applaud you for that.

 

[ceara19]

I applaud you for that.

Thank you. I think I'll start "outing" deadbeat parents next.

 

[Ohiogal]

Thank you. I think I'll start "outing" deadbeat parents next.

Watch yourself. These parents are not deadbeats until convicted or found guilty of it. If you state anything else you could find yourself on the wrong end of a lawsuit.

 

[ceara19]

Watch yourself. These parents are not deadbeats until convicted or found guilty of it. If you state anything else you could find yourself on the wrong end of a lawsuit.

It was a JOKE! However, the Texas OAG will provide fliers containing all identifying and relevant info about a "deadbeat" for public disbursement.