Maybe the judge will use discretion, but he didn't make it sound that way. He basically summed it up by saying he had to follow the statutes.. which really isn't the truth. He can rule either way.
What you rather him do? Not rule at all?
He's been a judge here for over 30 or 40 years. Seems to me that no matter how ****ty she is, if the statutes don't have verbiage that falls in my favor then I'm just screwed! Father's rights my ass! What was the point of the initial divorce decree in the first place? It doesn't protect me from anything!! Or him!! Our decree stated that we must be in mutual agreement about which school system he is enrolled in.
I'm betting that your decree states nothing of the sort. If it did, it would be a case of ...... what? Hanging around forever?
They're not worth the paper they're printed on! She's in contempt of 90% of what is required in our divorce decree. She has implacable hostility bordering on malicious mother syndrome going on.. She got up on the stand and acted like she was the picture of a perfect mother... she has 3 kids including my sone with another one on the way.. for the last several years my son has lived on their front porch because I complained that he had to live in a room with his brother who is 6 years younger..
Why on earth would you be complaining about the sleeping arrangements?
this was during a hearing for an order of protection against the stepdad after his meth arrest.. he was at a residence that had been under surveillance when it was raided.. his story is that someone through up a pipe in the air with meth in it.. and a bag of weed... he just happened to catch it!!!! Are you serious!!!? So now they'll be moving to a 3 bedroom house 1000 sq ft... with a family of 6.. do the math.. maybe he'll get lucky and they'll have a nice screened in porch again.. but hey.. their attorney went out of his way to make sure that they pledged to look into buying a big shiny house soon.. because with her on Wic, welfare, foodstamps.. the whole 9.. his $37,000 a year ought to really make it happen!!! I had one, and only one option for an attorney.. he was not the best choice by any means.
Be aware that if Mom ends up on certain State aid, you'll be paying them back.
There are a lot of things that I didn't get a chance to say to the judge and the counsel that I wish I could have. Not that I feel it would have mattered.. all that seems to matter to the judge are those statutes.. all I know is that my son and I have an amazing relationship, and this will be detrimental to that.. If he wouldn't have gotten arrested, he'd still be working at the job he had and this would be a non-issue. But, because he did and now can't find work around here, I have to suffer.. ultimately my son will have to suffer.. but they've told him that A.. there's more to do there... B.. He'll see me more... (not true in any sense.) and C.. If I really wanted to stay in his life I would move there!!
Are you the same guy who's ranting on the other forum, perchance?
I just spent my entire life savings opening a successful business where I'm at.. I've never been rich. I've been to college 3 times. I have a degree. I made my life here to be his father.. I could have gone elsewhere and done better for myself, but a boy needs his father in his life on a regular basis. I would have lived in a box to stay here and make sure he grows up to be a good man!! My wife has had her job for 7 years.. I was in the military.. I'm a war vet.. I have held down a job my entire life short of a period that I became sick, and when I went to school. I have paid my child support faithfully, even when I was not getting paid while out of work for a serious illness and while going to school. I pay as much for one child in child support as my friend who pays for three kids. This is destroying my faith in humanity. This is absurd. I'll just pray I'm up in arms over nothing and the judge comes to his senses, but honestly, the chances of that are slim. Jesus Christ somebody have a heart in this world!! I pray!!
What you need to do is step back COMPLETELY from the emotion. This is little more than a business deal, and you need to treat it as such.
Mom may be coming across as more stable.
