texasguy79
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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Texas for me, Most likely Mississippi for the Mother and Child.
In 2004 I was stationed in Fort Riley KS while in the Army. I met a woman (referring to as GF from now on) there and we dated, and GF moved in with me. GF got pregnant. GF and I got engaged. GF said she was homesick, so she went home to Mississippi to visit her mother, but never came back. Due to the fact of her just running off like that, it brought up the question in my mind if she had been faithful to me while we were together. After GF split, there was also hearsay that she was not being faithful. I spoke with her on the phone and requested that she would get a DNA test after the child was born.
I was about to deploy in January 2005, so I made the arrangements for the DNA test. I had my swab sample done at a local clinic in KS just before I deployed and they sent it to the DNA lab to be stored until the child was born, and would be available for when GF and the child had their samples taken. I had a credit card on file for the DNA lab to use to pay for both swab samples of GF and child, plus the actual costs of the test.
I deployed to Iraq from Jan 05 to Jan 06. She gave birth February 2005. I was told about the birth of the child from a fellow soldier in my unit, who was GF’s brother-in-law. He gave me her phone number and I contacted her. I let her know the address of the place where she needed to go to get her and the child’s swab samples done. She refused to get the DNA test done. GF says I am the father, and she had even named the child what I wanted to name the child but refused to validate it with the DNA test, and refused to take my offer of some financial support pending the DNA test results.
GF contacted me once by phone in 2006 when I returned from my deployment. She called me on someone else’s cell phone “family members”, and proceeded with telling me how my child was doing and such. I spoke with her again about the DNA test and offered some financial support. GF refused both.
I have lost track of her and do not have a valid phone number or address for her any longer. I do not know her current address because she lives with her mother, stepfather, and 2 brothers. Also they have moved since the past few hurricanes. I have searched online for her but can not find her, I am guessing because she does not have anything in her name such as utility or phones. My best guess is that she still lives in Mississippi, because that is where her family has been since who knows when.
I am a resident of Dallas Texas. I am no longer in the military, but I work in Iraq.
Who has jurisdiction?
Where can I find the laws on this situation?
Will I need a Texas and a Mississippi lawyer?
I have not had the money to hire an attorney, or two if that is the case. I have looked online for information, but can not find any information on a situation like mine. The only information I found was either about divorcing and child custody or the searched link just led to another search link infested websites.
The thought that I may have a child out there really gets to me. If the child is mine, I want to be an active part of my child’s life. I feel deprived and I don’t even know if I am the father of that child.
Do I have any rights at all?
Any help on this will be greatly appreciated.
Thank you.
(Please keep this thread ongoing because I have a feeling this is going to take a while before it’s resolved)
In 2004 I was stationed in Fort Riley KS while in the Army. I met a woman (referring to as GF from now on) there and we dated, and GF moved in with me. GF got pregnant. GF and I got engaged. GF said she was homesick, so she went home to Mississippi to visit her mother, but never came back. Due to the fact of her just running off like that, it brought up the question in my mind if she had been faithful to me while we were together. After GF split, there was also hearsay that she was not being faithful. I spoke with her on the phone and requested that she would get a DNA test after the child was born.
I was about to deploy in January 2005, so I made the arrangements for the DNA test. I had my swab sample done at a local clinic in KS just before I deployed and they sent it to the DNA lab to be stored until the child was born, and would be available for when GF and the child had their samples taken. I had a credit card on file for the DNA lab to use to pay for both swab samples of GF and child, plus the actual costs of the test.
I deployed to Iraq from Jan 05 to Jan 06. She gave birth February 2005. I was told about the birth of the child from a fellow soldier in my unit, who was GF’s brother-in-law. He gave me her phone number and I contacted her. I let her know the address of the place where she needed to go to get her and the child’s swab samples done. She refused to get the DNA test done. GF says I am the father, and she had even named the child what I wanted to name the child but refused to validate it with the DNA test, and refused to take my offer of some financial support pending the DNA test results.
GF contacted me once by phone in 2006 when I returned from my deployment. She called me on someone else’s cell phone “family members”, and proceeded with telling me how my child was doing and such. I spoke with her again about the DNA test and offered some financial support. GF refused both.
I have lost track of her and do not have a valid phone number or address for her any longer. I do not know her current address because she lives with her mother, stepfather, and 2 brothers. Also they have moved since the past few hurricanes. I have searched online for her but can not find her, I am guessing because she does not have anything in her name such as utility or phones. My best guess is that she still lives in Mississippi, because that is where her family has been since who knows when.
I am a resident of Dallas Texas. I am no longer in the military, but I work in Iraq.
Who has jurisdiction?
Where can I find the laws on this situation?
Will I need a Texas and a Mississippi lawyer?
I have not had the money to hire an attorney, or two if that is the case. I have looked online for information, but can not find any information on a situation like mine. The only information I found was either about divorcing and child custody or the searched link just led to another search link infested websites.
The thought that I may have a child out there really gets to me. If the child is mine, I want to be an active part of my child’s life. I feel deprived and I don’t even know if I am the father of that child.
Do I have any rights at all?
Any help on this will be greatly appreciated.
Thank you.
(Please keep this thread ongoing because I have a feeling this is going to take a while before it’s resolved)
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