I only email my exs attorney when his spousal support is due and just wait to see if my ex sends his pmt ito me
Why the dickens are you in here seeking legal advice if you are not willing to at least listen and acknowledge? Particularly where you have received the same advice as that given to you by the court!
And try to get it through your thick head that the responsibility of you husband's attorney is limited to seeing that any court orders directed his client are conveyed to his client. In other words giving him timely notice of those orders.
IT IS NOT THE LAWYER'S RESPONSIBILITY TO SEE THAT HIS CLIENT CARRIES OUT ANY SUCH ORDERS! COMPRENDER?!
So stop nagging his lawyer; he doesn't owe you a red cent; cease with the bellyaching and exercise your legal remedies. If you don't understand the procedures to enforce the current court orders by means of an OSC, then hire you own lawyer.