She declared bankruptcy and the second mortgage was discharged per one of her past threads. You really need to read her posting history on how she is rewriting history in this thread. Also your current husband OP should have been able to help you get refinanced if you really wanted to do so.
Also based on your prior postings:
A) Where is the home located -- TX where the divorce happened OR Arkansas where you live with new hubby?
B) Did you inform the courts when you moved to AK?
C) Do you LIVE in that home now? If so, and it was the marital residence, how did the divorce take place in TX?
D) Why did you feel the need to open your ex's mail when he is remarried as are you? Or do laws just not apply to you if you don't feel like it?