LdiJ
Senior Member
I am not sure that I can agree with that analysis because there is so much more involved with what is in the best interest of children than mere money.There is a huge gulf between taking care of your kids and paying for your ex's new BMW -- I know, I've been there. Our system for marriages, divorces, and child support is broken and really quite silly when you look at it objectively.
For example: When you have two people, one of whom is significantly better off than the other, and they have a child, what possible sense does it make to place the child with the poorer one? Let's strip out all of the noise. Two parents who both love the kid and don't have abuse, drugs or anything else. Just two parents. One makes $90k a year and the other makes $27k a year. Who is better situated to care for that child?
The one who makes $90k a year - every time and twice on Sunday. Money equals opportunity. The person making $90k a year most likely has friends that make incomes in the same range. They have different mindsets toward money and education and activities than the person making $27k a year. While the child might still attend public school, there is a world of difference between the public schools in the $90k neighborhoods and the schools in the $27k neighborhoods. It is the difference between growing up with people that build companies and the people that hope to pay bills. The kid will be much better off with the person making $90k a year.
Now child support cannot change that. The person making $27k will still be making $27k and associating with those people. Even if the child support is $20k a year, the $27k worker is still surrounded by $27k associates and friends. The money gets spent - largely not on the child - because the $27k person is living too close to poverty to be able to avoid spending that money on anything but pulling him or herself up just a little farther. But it isn't earned income. There is no respect for that money. Or the person who earned it. Instead of child support, it becomes charity, an entitlement - but not for the kid - for the parent.
It is a flawed and broken system. And yes, largely speaking, the non custodial parent gets screwed -- especially if they make more money than the other parent. I'm not saying they shouldn't pay their child support. But there is nothing wrong with recognizing that they are about to get screwed.
DC