Ex went from reliable income job to work from home "job"

[LdiJ]

If she has not not stopped, then she has stopped. (the double negatives cancel each other)...I'm confused....

My fingers got the better of me. She hasn't stopped yet.

 

[stealth2]

My fingers got the better of me. She hasn't stopped yet.

I kept trying to parse it but was getting nowhere fast. Been a long week.

 

[bcr229]

The problem with that is that the court orders were already made with them sharing the transportation.

OP never did say if they agreed on a long-distance visitation plan with both parents sharing transportation after his ex moved away, or if they are still trying to adhere to a plan where they lived close together, his ex subsequently moved away, and they're still trying to follow the court order. It would be helpful of OP could clarify that.

 

[LdiJ]

OP never did say if they agreed on a long-distance visitation plan with both parents sharing transportation after his ex moved away, or if they are still trying to adhere to a plan where they lived close together, his ex subsequently moved away, and they're still trying to follow the court order. It would be helpful of OP could clarify that.

A clarification would be nice but I suspect its a case of mom moving away due to a new significant other and dad fighting to keep the kids in the original home town. If that is the case, I suspect that the transportation arrangements were part of the case. In any case, sharing the transportation is status quo now.

 

[ProT]

Ok, here we are 5 months later....

I called the child support clearing house to confirm and her last child support payment was in May 2019. For clarification, she had moved to a neighboring state before the final hearing.

 

[commentator]

Okay, NOW it's time to go back to court. Get your attorney on notice. I assume you are still making the required half-way trips to drop and pick up the child. Limit your contact with your ex, don't talk about it in front of or to your son, above all, do not threaten her with what you're going to do, do not even discuss this with her until you've discussed it with your attorney. You will not get a lot of shots at a re-organization of custody and getting support from her, so make this a "done right" deal. Please let us know how things develop.

 

[ProT]

Okay, NOW it's time to go back to court. Get your attorney on notice. I assume you are still making the required half-way trips to drop and pick up the child. Limit your contact with your ex, don't talk about it in front of or to your son, above all, do not threaten her with what you're going to do, do not even discuss this with her until you've discussed it with your attorney. You will not get a lot of shots at a re-organization of custody and getting support from her, so make this a "done right" deal. Please let us know how things develop.

Yes, I am still following the court orders. I learned from previous experience with her that discussing something is fruitless as it can backfire no matter how sensible and calm I am. "Discuss with my attorney" is going to be the challenge as I do not have one. It's a small pond here and I'm "carrying baggage" so to speak from previous experience. I have to remind myself "this is different" (as in not the custody case/hearing). Having said that, I will just go with someone I havent used before and try to ensure they are not buddies with her attorney or the judge for that matter! Thanks and I WILL update later.