CJane said:
I guess my issue is that he's been living with her since BEFORE the non-cohab clause was put in your order. He's been in violation of the order since the divorce was final, and you've apparently been ok with their LIVING TOGETHER (possibly the only thing the cohab clause covers since we don't know what it says) as long as he sleeps on the couch when the kids are there?
Whether it bothers the kids isn't all that relevant. IF he married her, he'd be sleeping with her, and the kids would have to get over it. I'd suggest you start teaching some coping skills now.
Would you be equally furious if your daughter overheard them having sex if they were married?
You are very wrong. We agreed on divorce terms in June 2005. Divorce was final in August 2005. They started living together end of September of 2005 when he returned from overseas. They were at a school together in May and June in Mississippi. He was out of country July, August, Sept.
I have been talking to him about this since it came to my attention from the kids that he is doing this and it bothers them. What bothers them is that they are NOT married and doing something that was always understood by them as something you do until you are married.
My ex's mother did this same thing when she left his Dad, and it bothers my ex a LOT (he was 10). He always talked about how he'd never do that to his kids. Guess the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.