False accusations of Domestic Violence is turning my life upside down...please help!

[tryinghard1]

Except that getting full/primary custody would not give her an edge to leave the country with the child...or at least not much of one. If she CANNOT stay because she is undocumented AND she proves that you are unfit for custody, THEN it might give her an edge.



Again, medical professionals and people from women's shelters know their business.

Regarding the first point, she is a green card holder and I am not sure if it is a coincidence, but she got her oath ceremony letter in the mail the day before the (argument day). So she will become a citizen in the next couple of weeks. However, her reason for going back home is that all of her family lives there, only my side of the family lives in the states. So she thinks she can live a better life back home.

Regarding the second point, well obviously the nurse made a mistake that night because she did not check my wife's record to see that a week earlier she had an accident and had an IV in her left arm same place she is claiming the injury. And that mark also doesn't look like a grab where you seen finder marks all around that area.

Nonetheless, I fully respect your input and feedback and I hope you continue weighing in on my story.

 

[HRZ]

I know you are anxious about your child, very understandably so...but there may be a big long term card she is seeking to play ...custody of the child and such rights / passports as are necessary to take the child with her to her "home " ...and a visitation schedule that may be factored around the distances and necessity for an escort for the child and who pays the costs of all this ...I think you want to be sure to focus with counsel on what might be her long term goal vs your long term view of what is best for child.

 

[not2cleverRed]

Man, I am sorry. I was charged with aggravated domestic assault. It was ALL over a verbal dispute that ended with me separating myself from the incident and going to a different bedroom, and waking up from a deep sleep to the police surrounding my house. All she had to do was pick up the phone and call the police AND tack on that she THINKS she saw me with a gun, that wasn’t aimed at her and never existed. I fought and fought and the DA did not back off. I am being forced to take a deal now to avoid a multiple year sentence and felony conviction. I don’t care if a high ranking attorney comes on here and tells you you have a fair fight, YOU DONT, UNLESS, the law in California is drastically different from the law here in Tennessee. I have learned that men are at an unfair and ridiculous disadvantage. Sadly, to the OP, there are tens of THOUSANDS of men rowing in the same boat.

2 people in the world know what happened in my incident, and that’s me and her. She lied, and under oath. Why? The DA pulled her out and pressured her to maintain her story or he would prosecute for lying to the police. For some reason, my case was personal to him and he got it wrong. I’m not going to let him ruin my life, but he sure as hell made my life a hell of a lot harder. She is credible to the court because of her appearance and profession. Because of that discrimination, I will ultimately pay dearly. I haven’t seen my 1 year old in over 6 months, I lost over 40 thousand in legal fees, lost wages, and court related expenses. I will have to accept a misdemeanor domestic assault charge, serve 5 days in jail, pay a fine, attend a lot of unnecessary classes. The worst? I will likely get LIMITED visitation rights and my record will be forever marked. No, employers are getting access to even these charges that are expunged now. Sorry to be a downer, but the system is really really messed up right now. They messed up in the past with letting men mistreat women, and now they are over reaching and innocent men are paying the price. You will learn what it means when they say, ‘life just is not fair’, and ‘you can’t dwell on what’s happened, you just have to move on..’ remember, those folks didn’t go through this, so that’s BS advice. Just know it DOES SUCK, women DO get away with this, and no one will ever tell us they are sorry, but I’m sorry for ya man, I know exactly how this feels.

You are your own worst enemy. You actually told your wife you would "dismember her from the household", and posted that here, not understanding that most people would take that to mean something threatening.

https://forum.freeadvice.com/threads/charged-with-aggravated-domestic-assault-and-100-percent-innocent.640426/

Please don't give anyone *legal* advice, unless that advice is to not repeat your mistakes, not blather to the police, and beg, borrow, or whatever [legal, not steal] to get a decent lawyer.