Father wants too much info on my friend

[stealth2]

However...if dad gets to be concerned about the safety of his children around mom's boyfriends, then mom should have been able to be concerned about the safety of her children around dad's previous girlfriend, now wife. Its a little sexist to say otherwise...and its a courtesy that dad did not extent to her.

Did Mom ask for such information, though? If not? Too bad.

 

[nythng4mygrl]

Stealth, to answer your question, I knew her already. I don't want to open worms and start a novel, so I will keep as short as possible. The town that I used to live in is extremely small and everybody knows one another. I did express my feelings about the now wife, then girlfriend. I had issues with my daughter spending the night over there, being that she did not have her own room and they were having her sleep in the same bed with her brother inside a filthy un-livable home, and I had issues with her coming home injured all of the time. His words to me were that I could do nothing about it, because what he does on his time with our daughter is non of my business. After that, I took him to court, and he was ordered not to leave our daughter alone with his girlfriend, and he was not aloud to spend the night at her house with our daughter, unless they were married. OCS was brought in through our mediator, and visits to dad ended up being suspended for 1 year after their findings. After that 1 year, dad and girlfriend were married so that our daughter would be able to spend the night, however the judge would not allow sleepovers for another year after that. visitation was reinstated to one day during the week, and every Saturday or Sunday, whichever day he was not working. So after struggling through this issue I have been pretty protective of my girl and have paid close attention to who our friends are. My friend has sole custody of his child, and the kids in our neighborhood look up to him so much. I would never leave him alone with my daughter at this point, but I can tell you that I am extremely cautious and protective of my daughter after the suffering she has endured throughout the years. Basically with dad, it has always been his way or no way. I have worked diligently to keep the peace between us and so far it has worked out pretty well. As far as giving him address, place of residence, place of employment, and legal name, at this point I believe that is a little too much, and I was very nice about my response. He has agreed to drop the issue. Now if I can only get that child support check that I haven't received in the last 6 months, I would be even happier, but that too is a losing battle.