Father's Visitation

[JThomas]

What is the name of your state? Arkansas
I have posted on the Child Support board but this is about visitation from the father.
I moved out of state ( more than once ) and didn't inform my ex-husband because of the way the marriage ended. He does not know where I live and I don't want him to know. He had tried to get a modification to the court ordered visitations, won the case, and now I won't let him see his child because I'm afraid he will try and get custody. If he finds me, can he take my child from me and if so, how?

 

[acmb05]

What is the name of your state? Arkansas
I have posted on the Child Support board but this is about visitation from the father.
I moved out of state ( more than once ) and didn't inform my ex-husband because of the way the marriage ended. He does not know where I live and I don't want him to know. He had tried to get a modification to the court ordered visitations, won the case, and now I won't let him see his child because I'm afraid he will try and get custody. If he finds me, can he take my child from me and if so, how?

You dont want my opinion but I AM GOING TO GIVE IT TO YOU ANYWAY.

You want to get child support but you don't want the father to have anything to do with the child? You are a sorry excuse for a mother.

If dad does find you and takes you back to court there is a good chance you could be the one with visitation instead of custody. You need to get over your bitterness and support a healthy relationship between your child and her father.

At this point you don't deserve any help from anyone on this site.

 

[rmet4nzkx]

What is the name of your state? Arkansas
I have posted on the Child Support board but this is about visitation from the father.
I moved out of state ( more than once ) and didn't inform my ex-husband because of the way the marriage ended. He does not know where I live and I don't want him to know. He had tried to get a modification to the court ordered visitations, won the case, and now I won't let him see his child because I'm afraid he will try and get custody. If he finds me, can he take my child from me and if so, how?

Starting new threads doesn't change the advice you will recieve. If you failed to inform him of your out of state moves and failed to respond to his case and lost by default, your intentional custodial interference can very likely result in you losing custody. The court has already ruled against you. ANd since you are unemployed and dependent on your bf for support it looks like you wil just have to return your child to the original state where the father resides and make your court appearances and get a job there becuase you will need to start supporting yourself and possibly pay your ex child support when he is granted custody.

 

[haiku]

What is the name of your state? Arkansas
I have posted on the Child Support board but this is about visitation from the father.
I moved out of state ( more than once ) and didn't inform my ex-husband because of the way the marriage ended. He does not know where I live and I don't want him to know. He had tried to get a modification to the court ordered visitations, won the case, and now I won't let him see his child because I'm afraid he will try and get custody. If he finds me, can he take my child from me and if so, how?

oK lets explain how this works.

If you had a court order for the state you were living in , the FIRST time you moved, you needed to follow that states guidelines for moving. Whatever was going on between you and the father is irrelevant to the fact you cannot remove a child from that states jurisdiction once a court order is in place without following the proper procedure.

we can assume, if the ex has gone back to court after this initial move, that contempt problem was already addressed.

What did the ex win, when he went to modify the court order?

whatever this court order now states is what you must follow.

If you continue to disregard court orders, you may find yourself on the LOSING side of a custody battle.

 

[MandyD]

I'm gonna grab some popcorn and just sit back and watch this thread. It should be quite entertaining.

 

[acmb05]

I'm gonna grab some popcorn and just sit back and watch this thread. It should be quite entertaining.

I personally think it is quite sad.

Oh and btw she has left BF now to and is trying to get on state aid so that we can all support her in her efforts to hide this child from her father.

I still say a sorry excuse for a mother.

 

[acmb05]

I'm gonna grab some popcorn and just sit back and watch this thread. It should be quite entertaining.

And she had the nerve to post this in another thread to someone:

It's a shame more biological fathers don't feel the same way, I know I wish my ex felt that way, but at least he's paying child support.

This lady is unreal

 

[CandiceH]

She is more than unreal. She is obviously selfish AND uneducated. I dont think she has any common sense whatsoever. I dont think that she "gets" that her child's father has rights in this world. No matter what we try to say to this OP she is not going to "get" it. I hope that bio-dad is able to track her down and remove this child from her clutches. He obviously cares for his child if he went through filing modification of visitation and is paying child support. In her eyes I am sure he is a deadbeat. That isnt going to change. It is too bad for the child

 

[acmb05]

She is more than unreal. She is obviously selfish AND uneducated. I dont think she has any common sense whatsoever. I dont think that she "gets" that her child's father has rights in this world. No matter what we try to say to this OP she is not going to "get" it. I hope that bio-dad is able to track her down and remove this child from her clutches. He obviously cares for his child if he went through filing modification of visitation and is paying child support. In her eyes I am sure he is a deadbeat. That isnt going to change. It is too bad for the child

Wish I knew where dad lived, I would tip him off in a heartbeat

 

[Shay-Pari'e]

Oh come on guy's,******************************************....*She has alway's had someone to support her*. Now it will be our turn.

I hope daddy finds her and gets custody, no child deserves to have a pathetic mother like her.

 

[acmb05]

Oh come on guy's,******************************************....*She has alway's had someone to support her*. Now it will be our turn.

I hope daddy finds her and gets custody, no child deserves to have a pathetic mother like her.

Unfortunately it is not always that easy. It took me almost 14 years, of course when I started I did not have a clue about how to find someone.

Her husband would definately be someone I would help for free if he contacted me with a case like this.

Btw, when she filed for child support she made it very easy to find her. I beleive I could do it in about 1 hour or less.

I'm sorry but this lady has hit a nerve with me and she really pi**es me off.

 

[Shay-Pari'e]

Unfortunately it is not always that easy. It took me almost 14 years, of course when I started I did not have a clue about how to find someone.

Her husband would definately be someone I would help for free if he contacted me with a case like this.

Btw, when she filed for child support she made it very easy to find her. I beleive I could do it in about 1 hour or less.

I'm sorry but this lady has hit a nerve with me and she really pi**es me off.

Don't be sorry, she has hit a nerve with everyone.

 

[JThomas]

I'm not trying to get answers from new people by posting on this board. What are the proper procedures I should have taken when I left, even if I didn't contact him that I was leaving the state who was I supposed to contact? He obviously hasn't tried very hard to find me.

 

[rmet4nzkx]

I'm not trying to get answers from new people by posting on this board. What are the proper procedures I should have taken when I left, even if I didn't contact him that I was leaving the state who was I supposed to contact? He obviously hasn't tried very hard to find me.

Don't play Miss Innocence, it won't work. You intentionally moved the child out of state and you ignored the court, how can you say he didn't try very hard. Why did you leave the state, to be with a boyfriend that abandoned you? Get real, your days with custody of that child are numbered.

 

[JThomas]

I left the state because after the divorce, I found someone else, remarried for a short time, divorcedhim, moved near family and met my ex-boyfriend, moved in with him, we split up and now I'm with my family. If my ex-husband really cared about his child, he could hire another lawyer to track us down. It's not like he hadn't tried before.
Sometimes its hard to find someone who doesn't want to be found. Look at all the fathers who don't pay child support.