Father's Visitation

[weenor]

I left the state because after the divorce, I found someone else, remarried for a short time, divorcedhim, moved near family and met my ex-boyfriend, moved in with him, we split up and now I'm with my family. If my ex-husband really cared about his child, he could hire another lawyer to track us down. It's not like he hadn't tried before.
Sometimes its hard to find someone who doesn't want to be found. Look at all the fathers who don't pay child support.

YOU ARE NOT GETTING it. IT IS NOT his job to find you and his child. It is YOUR job to follow the court order. Keep playing games and YOU WILL lose custody of your child and with your propensity for running, I would say supervised visitation at your expense would be in order.

 

[AHA]

I left the state because after the divorce, I found someone else, remarried for a short time, divorcedhim, moved near family and met my ex-boyfriend, moved in with him, we split up and now I'm with my family. If my ex-husband really cared about his child, he could hire another lawyer to track us down. It's not like he hadn't tried before.
Sometimes its hard to find someone who doesn't want to be found. Look at all the fathers who don't pay child support.

It is HIS child too, he shouldn't have to pay for anyone to find his kid, YOU should make sure he always knows where his child is!!

"Sometimes its hard to find someone who doesn't want to be found".
Why do you say that, and in the same post say he hasn't tried hard enough to find his kid?
Tell him where his kid is and stop chasing men like there is no tomorrow, stand on your own two feet for once and stop being so desperate to have a man in your bed at all times. Your kid and his/her relationship with BOTH parents should be the first priority for you, not a string of men that you apparently can't make happy.

How the hell are going to explain to HIS child that you deliberately kept dad out of his/her life just so mommy could go have a new sugardaddy every month????? Talk about child neglect!!!!!!

 

[acmb05]

I'm not trying to get answers from new people by posting on this board. What are the proper procedures I should have taken when I left, even if I didn't contact him that I was leaving the state who was I supposed to contact? He obviously hasn't tried very hard to find me.

GRRRRRRRRRR.

Lady you should have gone thru the courts. You may have even gotten permission to move if you had done it right.

So now because the guy slept with someone else you are going to deprive your child of a relationship with her father.

You are one sick person and hopefully within a short time dad will find you and then you can come on here and cry about how you only get supervised visits and you want to see your child more.

I'm done with you before I say something that would get me kicked off of here

 

[Shay-Pari'e]

I left the state because after the divorce, I found someone else, remarried for a short time, divorcedhim, moved near family and met my ex-boyfriend, moved in with him, we split up and now I'm with my family. If my ex-husband really cared about his child, he could hire another lawyer to track us down. It's not like he hadn't tried before.
Sometimes its hard to find someone who doesn't want to be found. Look at all the fathers who don't pay child support.

Do your parents know what an immatue dependent tramp they have raised? He did try before, and he won. Now you expect him to do it again?

Give this poor child to his/her father , they deserve more than you.

You are an uneducated, whiney, pathetic piece of trash.

 

[frylover]

What is the name of your state? Arkansas
I have posted on the Child Support board but this is about visitation from the father.
I moved out of state ( more than once ) and didn't inform my ex-husband because of the way the marriage ended. He does not know where I live and I don't want him to know. He had tried to get a modification to the court ordered visitations, won the case, and now I won't let him see his child because I'm afraid he will try and get custody. If he finds me, can he take my child from me and if so, how?

God, I HOPE so!

 

[CandiceH]

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God, I HOPE so!

I can honestly say that this is one of the worst OP's I have seen on here and there have been some real "nutty" ones. I am just hoping that if she does have a support order (which I believe from her other thread she does) that he is going to be able to track her down, get an emergency order from his state and go pick up his child. How many "father figures" has this child had already? Must be very confusing.

 

[nextwife]

I left the state because after the divorce, I found someone else, remarried for a short time, divorcedhim, moved near family and met my ex-boyfriend, moved in with him, we split up and now I'm with my family. .

So you think THAT is a good reason to DEPRIVE a father of his RIGHT to parent his child? Your desire to shack up with a new guy, marry him, then your subsequent desire to ditch him and have yet someone else (your parents?) be responsible to support you? Followed by your subsequent desire to shack up, bringing your kids along for the roller coaster ride, yet again, with a new guy-du-jour?

 

[Frustrated_one]

I left the state because after the divorce, I found someone else, remarried for a short time, divorcedhim, moved near family and met my ex-boyfriend, moved in with him, we split up and now I'm with my family. If my ex-husband really cared about his child, he could hire another lawyer to track us down. It's not like he hadn't tried before.
Sometimes its hard to find someone who doesn't want to be found. Look at all the fathers who don't pay child support.

Sorry that is just wrong.

I felt sorry that people were getting on you on the other thread (until you said you depended on a boyfriend ) but you keeping a man who HAS taken interest in the child is only going to make your child angry with you later on.

 

[tigger22472]

Since I cannot reply to her other thread I will reply here.

I think we SHOULD ALL help this woman recieve the advice she asked for in the previous thread about getting TANF and the process in which it takes to get it.

OP, Please go to your local welfare office, inform them if you are not receiving child support and fill out the forms for assistance. They will receive any monies they give you back from the NCP through support garnishment.

I will address this thread later.

 

[JThomas]

Double standards. Good-bye and thank you for your help.

 

[nextwife]

IMHO, CPs who fail to report accessable addresses to a NCP with court ordered visitaion, should NOT be allowed to collect CS UNTIL they fulfill the responsibility of notifying NCP where they can see get their kids for their visitaion. It should go into an escrow account to be released upon verification of address that was provided to NCP. Again, that's my opinion.