You are right. It was a fitness issue. *sigh* . .Ok here's the deal. Hopefully this will make things easier for everyone. I'm ashamed of what I did and paid the price for it, BUT I am a better person now.
My drinking got a little out of hand a few years ago. I was starting to get a little dependent on it and one night I drank a little too much and sent my ex a pretty scary pic of me involving a gun. So I went from having my son 50/50 with her to only having him 2 hours every other Sat in a matter of 1 month. Justifiably so. I would have done the same if I were in her shoes. Since then, I did attend AA and did quit drinking and did everything everyone asked of me so I can get my visitation back.
And quite honestly, I don't really have a problem with what I ended up with. It's certainly more than what I had in the past year or so. It's the fact that I feel like I could have negotiated for more visitation time with my son when I was at the negotiation table with my ex and our attorney's.
And now, I feel like I got the short end of the stick, because now I'm afraid that unless my ex cooperates when her and I go to mediation to make any adjustments to the visitation, I won't get any extended time unless there's a change of circumstance. And I don't know if there ever will be in the near future.
That's why I asked earlier if it mattered whether my ex and I agreed to a certain schedule. Would the judge have denied me some time if he/she thought I still wasn't ready to get what my ex and I agreed to . .
My drinking got a little out of hand a few years ago. I was starting to get a little dependent on it and one night I drank a little too much and sent my ex a pretty scary pic of me involving a gun. So I went from having my son 50/50 with her to only having him 2 hours every other Sat in a matter of 1 month. Justifiably so. I would have done the same if I were in her shoes. Since then, I did attend AA and did quit drinking and did everything everyone asked of me so I can get my visitation back.
And quite honestly, I don't really have a problem with what I ended up with. It's certainly more than what I had in the past year or so. It's the fact that I feel like I could have negotiated for more visitation time with my son when I was at the negotiation table with my ex and our attorney's.
And now, I feel like I got the short end of the stick, because now I'm afraid that unless my ex cooperates when her and I go to mediation to make any adjustments to the visitation, I won't get any extended time unless there's a change of circumstance. And I don't know if there ever will be in the near future.
That's why I asked earlier if it mattered whether my ex and I agreed to a certain schedule. Would the judge have denied me some time if he/she thought I still wasn't ready to get what my ex and I agreed to . .